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Facing Personal Failure, Part 2

From the series Keep Pressing Ahead

The most difficult of all situations for most people to endure are ones that come from their own choices. Personal failures. Selfish choices. Destructive decisions. How do you recover? There is a way, and Chip shares God’s divine plan for providing forgiveness and restoration.

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The second condition isn’t just returning to the Word. They didn’t just listen. They didn’t just hear it. They didn’t just pray a prayer. Notice, the second condition is: we must respond to the truth.

Look what they do in verses 9 through 12. “When Nehemiah the governor, Ezra the priest and the scribe, and the Levite who were instructing the people said to them, ‘This day is sacred to the Lord your God. Do not mourn or weep.’ For all the people were weeping as they listened to the words of the Law.” When they saw who God was, when they saw why they were where they were, when they saw the consequences, when they looked around and said, “We’ve married foreign wives. We’ve disobeyed. We don’t honor the Sabbath. We have our priorities out of whack. We’ve leveraged ourselves; we have amazing debt. All the things You’ve said that You would bless – You said to us, ‘Live this way, there will be blessing; live this way, there will be a curse. Before you today, I give you life, or death.’”

They’re hearing this, and they are realizing, “We chose death,” and they’re weeping. They’re weeping. For some of us, it would be, “I am experiencing this depression because I’m in disobedience.” “My marriage broke up because of my disobedience.” “My kids are experiencing this because of my disobedience.” When you face that kind of stuff, you weep! You’re broken.

But notice what they’re doing. “Nehemiah said to them, ‘Go and rejoice, enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is sacred to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.’”

And the Levites, now, they’re coming out in these, I think, medium-sized groups, and they “calmed all the people, saying, ‘‘Be still’” – “stop crying” – “‘for this is a sacred day.’ Then the people went away to eat, and drink, and to send portions of food and celebrate with great joy, because” – here’s the key word – “they now understood” – they didn’t just hear – “they understood the words that had been made known to them.”

Now, you read this the first time, and I don’t know about you, but this is wacky, isn’t it? Like, you hear how holy God is; this is what His Word says, and these people are weeping. At least from my perspective, the right response is, you need to be weeping, people! You really messed up, and God is really mad, and you need to get it right! Isn’t that the kind of God that you think about?

That’s not the response. You need to know something about the Jewish calendar. You might have skipped over it. It says, “It’s the seventh month, the first day.”

That’s when the new year starts. And God commanded the new year starts on October first, in the Jewish calendar, and they were to – the harvest is coming in, and so, on that very first day, what obedience looks like is, the harvest is coming in, and it’s a day to celebrate and rejoice what God has done, and what He’s provided.

“And so, I want you to go home, and I want you to eat choice, great food; I want you to have some great, sweetened” – it means “the best of your” – “drinks, and then, I want you to – anybody who doesn’t have enough food, invite them over.”

Basically, this is a party day. Rejoice in the Lord! It’s to look back. It’s like their New Year’s Day. And the people understood, they couldn’t focus on all their past failure, because God’s will, on this day, from His Word, is this, and it’s to celebrate.

And it says the reason why is, “The joy of the Lord is your strength.” The word strength, there – the joy. When you experience the connection, the byproduct of being reconnected with God, it is that connection with Him that gives you strength.

That word, strength, can mean “fortress.” It can mean “it puts you on a mountaintop.” It means “it will rescue.” It’s when David said, “He’s my hiding place.” When you take those baby steps of obedience, and you begin to get reconnected, and the Spirit of God begins to enliven your heart, even though there are these issues, that is your strength. That’s how you go forward.

Notice what, exactly, that they did. Number one, they wept over their sin. And for some of you, an application is going to be to maybe open your journal, and write out, God, I’m really – I’ve got to deal with some stuff. Or you sit down with a close friend, or possibly a counselor. And you may find yourself weeping. And that can be a very healthy thing.

Second, they received a word of grace. God said, “You just don’t understand. I’m a just God.” But the will of God today is, “I want to bless you. I want to love you.” Romans chapter 2 has this great line, “It is the kindness of the Lord that leads us to repentance.”

Most of us have a view of God that His arms are crossed; His toe is tapping. He has a long, boney finger. And anything you’ve ever done, He is really ticked off, and just can’t wait for you to come, and he’s going to take you to the spiritual woodshed. “Now, I told you not to do that. See? This wouldn’t have happened if it wasn’t…”

I don’t know where you got that picture of God, or where I got it, and don’t get me wrong, He doesn’t gloss over sin. But whenever a person has a contrite heart, whenever a person is genuinely, deeply sorry, and you own your stuff, and you blow it, the Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and those that are crushed in spirit.

And whenever a prodigal like you, and a prodigal like me, comes and says, God, I am so sorry for what I’ve done. I’m so sorry I’ve been thinking those thoughts. I am so sorry I said those things. I’m sorry that I have just squandered the money entrusted to me. I am so sorry that my greed, or my pride, or my addiction, or my…

And when you come like that, you will meet a God who is like this: who loves, who forgives, who cleans you off, who puts His arm around you. Oh, He’ll deal with the consequences – He’ll be fair. But He’ll go through it with you.

And notice, they experienced the joy of obedience. See, for many of you, the next step – God’s will for you is just to take the next step of obedience. What is it that He’s showing you? You return to His Word. The next step is, “I’m going to get in His Word.” The next step is, “I’m going to deal.”

Even as I speak, it’s an amazing thing how God works. I can just tell you, right now, like, little lights flashing over the tops of your heads is the Spirit of God showing different people, “Uh-oh.” And He’s bringing things to your mind.

He’s bringing things to your mind, not because He’s down on you. He’s bringing things to your mind – it’s called “conviction” – so you could own them, and you could bring them. And you could turn from them. That’s what they did, but notice how they did it. They responded from the heart. This wasn’t perfunctory. This wasn’t, “Oh, yeah, God says this. I guess we’re supposed to do that.” This was deep! This was honest! This was real!

You know those different times you have in your life, and I have in my life, the times where, Dear God, this is Chip, and I know I’m really supposed to pray  – I’m not going to say it like that – but, uh, could You help so-and-so, and so-and-so, and so-and-so, and so-and-so, and so-and-so? And really help me today, and I got a big meeting, and duh da duh da, duh da duh da, duh da duh. And I don’t want to talk about this one area, and this attitude, or being ticked off at my wife, or this area that keeps coming up every time I read, because I don’t want to feel guilty. So, we’re not going to talk about that as I pray. I’ll catch You later.

And your prayers are short, and they’re superficial, and you’re playing games. And you don’t have a deep connection with God. You don’t hear those little promptings that He gives you. And many times, what it is, He keeps bringing the same thing back over and over and over. I don’t know what it is with you. For some, “Deal with your anger.” For others, “Deal with your weight.” For others, “Deal with your marriage.” For others, “Get in My Word.” For others, “Forgive your dad. How long are you going to live with that?”

But it’s a sensitive issue, and you don’t want to deal with it. And so, you keep this superficial thing going. And then, you’ve had those times, like I have, where you get before God, and you call it what it is, and you see it for what it is, and the tears come, and you own it, and you just feel like the lowest, worst person. “I am desperate, and I’m sorry,” and there’s this guilt that comes. And there’s this amazing release as you bring it to Him, and you experience, None of this surprised Me. I love you. Now we’re going to make progress.

You been there? The scary part is, you can learn to do the moral life, instead of the Christian life, and look pretty good on the outside, but never from the heart.

Notice, they focused on God’s mercy, rather than on their failure. Isn’t this amazing? Their focus wasn’t on, “Well, God could – I know God forgave me, but I could never forgive myself.”

Have you heard that a lot? “Well, I know this happened, but I’m such a terrible person, and I’ve done this,” and, “I haven’t had one abortion, I’ve had two abortions.” “I haven’t had just one bad marriage, I’ve had two bad marriages.” “I abandoned my kids when they were small.” “I stole from my company – no one knows it now.” “I’m a leader in the church,” or, “I’m a leader at this, and I’m leading a Bible study, and I log on, about three nights a week, into XXX porn, and…” “My husband doesn’t know it, but I’ve been in – my old high school, and my Facebook, and I’m chatting and flirting with my old high school boyfriend.” “I’m going to a Bible study, but I’m living with a guy right now.” Right? And so, that’s all you can focus on. God knows that stuff. Once you get real, you need to focus on His mercy, and how great a love the Father must have for regular people, like you and me, that He’s called us His children.

And so, you own your stuff, and then you focus on what He’s done. This is the Luke 15; this is the son who has squandered his life, and realizes, he brings nothing; he doesn’t deserve to be a son. But the moment he turns from the pigsty, the moment from his life, and he returns to the father.

What’s the father like? What was Jesus’ picture there? What was He trying to tell? That wasn’t some story. That was for you! What’s He want you to know?

He can repair people that have had affairs! He can repair people that have addictions. He can repair people that have squandered, and your greed has cost you your life fortune. He can repair people that are gossips, and workaholics, and people-pleasers, and codependents, and sex addicts, and rigid, narrow, Bible-thumping Pharisees who are judgmental of other people. All of us.

You come, and when you come to that Father, what’s He do? He’s waiting. And He puts a ring on your finger, and sandals on your feet, because you’re not a slave, you’re a son. And He takes His robe and He wraps it around you, and He walks through it with you.

Notice what they did: They obeyed God’s Word for today. We have this mental catalogue that we play, is that – you know you need to return to God, you know you need to get right with God. And then, the catalogue is, you have this list of seventeen things that need to be addressed, and it’s like, Okay, I’m going to go number one, number two, number three, number four, number five – I’m only on number seven, God. When I get down to about sixteen or seventeen, and I feel a little bit better about myself, I’ll really come back.

That’s a lie from the enemy of hell. They just obey. You obey today. What’s God saying today? What’s His will today? And so, they did. And their “today” response was – what? “Today we’re supposed to, it’s the first day; it’s the new year. We’re to thank God for the harvest. We’re to thank God for this, and we’re to look forward in faithfulness, and celebrate.”

So, where do you need to respond to the truth? What’s the next step? You want to hear the answer to a prayer that comes, like –whoo! – really quick? Pray this prayer in your heart and mind right now: Dear God, please show me the next step. Whatever You show me, I will do. And I don’t care if you don’t listen to me the rest of the time. Dear God, show me just the next step. I will tell you – whoo!

Now, many of you will not like what the next step is, and many of you actually already know what the next step is. But you’re playing this game, “I don’t want to – I don’t want to do it. I don’t want to do it. I don’t want to do it. I don’t want to do it. I hope he – this guy is messing in my wheelhouse.

I hope he shuts up soon, and I can get out of here, because…” Right? Right? Don’t miss God’s grace. See, you don’t deal with it today, if you’re fortunate it’ll come back around in a month. If you’re fortunate, it’ll come back around. But it may not. Sometimes God says, You want your own way? Here it is, in spades, with all the consequences that come with it.

So, we return to the Word in our response to personal failure. Then, we respond to that truth, from the heart. And then, third, we must apply it to our lives. We’ve got to get it operational. It’s when you act on the Word; it’s when you abide, when you take the step. Jesus says, “That’s when you’ll know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

So, let’s find out what they do. Pick it up at verse 13. Verse 13 – now, notice, it was the first day of the seventh month. Now it’s the second day. “The heads of all the families, along with the priests and the Levites, they gathered around Ezra the scribe to give attention” – literally, the phrase is, literally, “to gain wisdom” – “to give attention to the words of the Law.”

And so, as they got together – as day one happened and day two – can you imagine hearing all this stuff that you’re not doing, feeling like you’re a dad – you heard Deuteronomy 6. You’re thinking, Man, I am out to lunch.

And so, the next day – this is like the very first advanced Bible seminar. And all the leaders and the heads of the families say, “Hey, Ezra, before we go on, could we talk? Because we’ve got to figure out how to apply this to our lives.”

“So they found written in the Law of the Lord that Moses had commanded that the Israelites were to live in booths during the feast of the seventh month.” Of course, they’re in the seventh month. “And they should proclaim this Word and spread it throughout their towns and in Jerusalem: ‘Go out into the hill country and bring back branches of olive and wild olive trees, and from myrtles and from palms and shade trees, to make booths’ – as it is written.”

So, what do the people do? “The people went out and they brought back branches and built themselves booths on their own roofs, and in the courtyards and in the courts of the house of God and in the square by the Water Gate and by the one by the Gate of Ephraim.

“And the whole company that returned from the exile, they built booths and they lived in the tent. And from the days of Joshua the son of Nun until that day, the Israelites had not celebrated it like this. And their joy was very great.” And then, notice the very last line: “Day after day, from the first day to the last, Ezra read from the Book of the Law of God.”

So, what started as a one-day, six-hour reading, with some explanation, followed with the leaders coming and saying, “Hey, Nehemiah, what do we do about all this?” They hear, “Hey, there’s something that’s supposed to happen this month.” They go out and do it. And then, a new pattern evolves. Every day, he reads from the Word.

And then, notice, there’s this joy. “And they celebrated the feast for seven days, and on the eighth day, in accordance with the regulation, there was an assembly.”


So, what did they do? The fathers and the leaders came to be equipped.

It wasn’t just some emotional, Oh God, I messed up. I really want to do what’s right, and I repent. It’s one thing to be the prodigal come back to the Father, but now you need to, How do I walk with the Father? Right? How do we do this new life together? And so, the fathers come, and the leaders, they say, “We need wisdom.” And wisdom is, how does this actually play out? So, for some of you, you can say, “Okay, so, how do I do relationships?” “So, what do I do with my money?” “So, how do I break an addiction?” “How do I become less judgmental?” Wherever God is speaking that truth, He’s going to use a community of people, and His Word, to help you on the journey to become. But you’ve got to get equipped.

And notice, the second thing is, they discovered a command to obey.

What you found is, day one was the Feast of the Trumpets. The shofar – they would go, “Brooooooo,” or something like that. And the people would go, “Oh! It’s the Feast of the Trumpet, and we’re supposed to be really rejoicing and thankful today.”

Well, then the tenth day would be the Day of Atonement. And then, on the fifteenth day, they were supposed to go out and get these branches, and they’d build these little huts, and they would sleep outside. They would – the kids thought they were camping out. And everyone would sleep outside for seven days, to remind them of their wilderness wandering.

Now, notice how this all ties together. Why did the people of Israel end up in the wilderness? Can anybody remember? Because they disobeyed God, right? So, the wilderness wandering is – what? A time of discipline. It’s forty years of, “You know what? This was My great plan for you. You didn’t want it, so here’s your plan that’s not so good.”

And so, what they learned was, “We’re supposed to do this every year to remember that God wants us to be in the promised land, but if you disobey – part of our heritage is, our fathers failed to believe, and trust, and take the steps of faith, and this is what happens.”

So, think about this as a kid. You’re going out, and you get these branches, and you build it on the roof, and you sleep out one night – “Hey, this is fun!” Then, you sleep out the next night – “Dad, why do we do this?” “Well, son, actually, I just learned about this. We’ve blown it.” And now what’s happening? The story of God is being told, from family to family to family. And guess what they do – they obey. They went out – notice – immediately. They build it on the roof; the build it in the courtyards. They build it in the house of God.

Well, then, how did they do it? First, they recognized their need for spiritual insight. They got it. They understood, this is not a religious moment. “We need not to just be aware and turn; we need to learn to turn to God, turn from sin, but we need insight. We need the wisdom to walk in this new life.”

Second is, they focused on present obedience, instead of past failure. See, if they were in a modern counseling session, they would have been unpacking the last hundred years of how they got there: “I did this. I did this. I did this. I did this. I did this. I did this. And I think this is the reason for that.” Now, there is a place and a time, personally, but some of you, you could spend the rest of your life unpacking baggage and remorse. There’s a thing called “the cross.” And it covers your sin. And you come to the cross, and you receive the atonement, or the covering, of your sin.

And then, the thing is – what’s obedience look like today? “Wow, I’m upside down financially. I’m going to get out of debt. I’m living with someone – ah, let’s see, I’m not real – actually, I am really sure. That’s not part of God’s – well, we love each other. Yeah, yeah, deet, dat, boop, bap, beep, beep. Those are my excuses. This is God’s will.”

You know what it is, right? Obey. Immediately. Today. What’s the next thing He wants you to do? And by the way, when you take a step of obedience, that joy kicks in. Is it hard? Of course it’s hard! Did you get where you’re at overnight? No. Is everything going to change overnight? No. But it starts with this first step. And then, notice, they developed a pattern of intake and obedience to God’s Word. It said, “Day after day.”

Some of you need to make some big steps. But all of us need to begin to walk. For some,

you’re here today, and this is the greatest day of your earthly life. You just didn’t know it when you got up. I’m serious.  You came. It’s about adversity. You’re getting some help. But you’re outside of Christ. If you were to die today, you’d be eternally separated from the living God, because no amount of your being nice, or a little bit more moral than other people.

God does not grade on the curve. Sorry. You have to have a hundred points of absolute perfection to have a relationship with an absolutely holy God. You can be a ninety-six, a ninety-seven, or a minus ten – it’s pass/fail. And the only way you can have a hundred points is to allow Christ to do for you what you could never do for yourself. When He died upon the cross, He paid for your sin, my sin, and the sins of all people, of all time. He atoned, He covered for them, and He says, “Whosoever would believe in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

And for some, the will of God the next step in this room is, right now, for you to say, God, I need You. I have missed the mark. I have sinned. I’ve got lots of stuff in my life. And I want You to know, I want to turn from that sin. I’m going to ask You to come into my life, and make me Your son or Your daughter, and I want a new life. And He will do that. And you’ll need to tell someone. And about eighty or ninety percent of the people, at some point in their life, have done that, and they have all the same struggles you and I do. But I will tell you, they are new people. There has been a transformation, and He wants that for you.

For others, you’ve been thinking the whole time I’ve been talking, and fighting with it. You need to decide; you ask God, What’s the next step? Is it getting into His Word? Is it deal with a sin issue? Is it get in community? I don’t know what it is! You take that step, and the process of restoration will occur.