In the Name of Love, Part 1

Well, we’re in a series, if you’re new, called Spiritual Simplicity. And has anyone noticed that each of the titles of the messages has been the title of a song? Have you picked that up? Right? You know? We had Tina Turner, What’s Love Got To Do With It? All You Need is Love.

Well, um, I’m kinda on a roll. So, the title of the song is actually the most sung song by U2 in any of their concerts. It was one of their early hits.

So, here we have a song, In the Name of Love, that at the core of the lyrics, if you read the lyrics, they don’t make a lot of sense.

And you’re thinking, okay Chip, you really need to make the connection here soon about what this has to do with, you know, living simply.

Here’s what hit me. All of us, in the name of love, do things that don’t make sense. I mean, in the name of love, sometimes we do very, very good things, but they just don’t make sense.

And so, I came across a little poem, if you’ll get your notes out. Here’s some things that, in the name of love, and, by the way, there’s no criticism here. This is, like, genuine, sincere, in the name of love I really want to do what’s best, I really want to care for people, I want to be a good person:

In the name of love, we give and give and give some more yet still feel guilty for not giving more.

In the name of love, we get up early and come home late, leaving little time or energy to relate. In the name of love, we’re always on the go, but love requires the gear of slow. In the name of love, we start them early so they’ll be a star and then we spend our weekends in the car.

In the name of love, we buy them computers and fancy phones only to discover they feel all alone. In the name of love, we celebrate their roll on the traveling team and wonder later why at church they’re rarely seen.

And in the name of love, we make success what we reward, but show little passion for God’s Word. And in the name of love, we withhold honest feedback from a friend then watch them repeat the negative consequences of their actions yet again.

Now, if you went through that, what I can tell you is, there’s a lot of, you know, look at the first one. Isn’t it good to be giving and generous?  Well, yeah. And the second, isn’t it good to work hard, get up early, and if you have to stay late? Yeah. Well isn’t it good to be on the go and be active? Don’t be a couch potato, right? That’s a good thing.

Isn’t it good that, you know, you start them, I guess, early and you want to develop their skills and, I mean, the motive is great.

You know, heck, I mean, don’t you want your kids to have a computer and it’s the age and they need to learn it and, you know, a phone to keep them safe and…

See, there’s a lot of really good things with a lot of really good motives that if the means becomes the end or if there’s a little shift over time, in the name of love, in our minds and hearts and motives, we often think we’re doing some really good things that produce some really bad results.

And that’s the question I want to address this morning here in part four. Why do so many good things so often result in so many bad lives?

And so, let’s do a quick review because the issue isn’t someday, someway that we try to be more loving. These are the kind of things we have to practice in real time.

Situation number one is how does love respond to hurts? The truth is, love is patient and kind. The practice we learned is when you’re hurt, wounded, rejected, or ignored. Love… remember the pillow?...absorbs the blow. It’s not fair, it hurts. You’re rejected. But then by God’s grace, returns a hug.

Situation number two was how love responds to differences. The text says, love doesn’t envy, doesn’t boast, it’s not rude, it’s not self-seeking, it’s not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

The practice is, love celebrates differences. And remember the principle about loving? Love refuses to compare. Anytime you compare yourself with another person in any area, it always leads to carnality. You are who you are in the station you are, in the season you’re living, by the grace of God.

If I compare upwardly, I’m prone to envy. If I compare downwardly, I’m prone to arrogance. Love chooses to do neither celebrates. That’s where they’re at, that’s what they have, that’s how they’re made, that’s their gifts, that’s their season.

Third situation is how does love respond to failure? The truth was verses six through eight. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, it always trusts, it always hopes, it always perseveres. Love never fails.

The practice is, love responds to failure, remember? With both truth and grace. When people fail you, when your mate fails you. When your best friend fails you, when people don’t show up, when you fail other people, when you fail God. Love, this is how it responds, it doesn’t put it under the rug. It doesn’t act like it doesn’t happen. It doesn’t stuff it down. It doesn’t pay them back later.

Love responds with truth. This is the truth about that failure. It’s very real, it was very painful, and it was wrong, and it also responds with grace. And I still care about you. And I want to forgive you. And this can be made whole.

And so we learned that the practice of giving truth and grace was about bearing all things, believing all things, hoping all things, and enduring all things.

Now the Apostle Paul is going to address these Corinthians because they are self-centered. They’re more concerned about who does what and who has what. And their priorities in the church are absolutely out of whack.

They are so into, in some cases, their own needs, that they’re suing one another. Their so interested in being first and being out front that they’re doing some spiritual practices and literally just dissing other people.

They’re in this deal where their priorities, they’re exalting some of the gifts and exalting some of what is supposed to be in the church that God talks about, but they put it up here and the things that really matter? They’re totally neglecting.

And so the Apostle Paul is gonna write to them: situation number four. How does love respond to misplaced priorities? You can jot that in your notes if you would.

And he answers. Here’s the truth. Love never fails. Where there are prophecies, they’ll cease, where there’s tongues, they will be stilled. Where there’s knowledge, it’ll pass away. Then he gives us the reason.

For we know, in part, and we prophecy in part. But when the perfection comes. And put a circle around “perfection,” will you? We’ll come back and address that. When the perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.

And now he gives us an illustration. He’s going to give us some help about how to get your priorities in order. He says, when I was a child, I talked like child, I thought like a child, and I reasoned like child. When I became a man, I put away childish things.

In your notes, will you underline the word “talked,” underline the word “think,” and underline the word “reasoned.” They’re three key, key verbs.

Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror, then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part, then I shall know fully. Even as I’m fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Now, it is poetic. It is beautiful. It is on plaques everywhere in the world. It is said at weddings. It’s said in, kind of, romantic settings. But you need to understand what he’s addressing here is not, sort of a, foo foo, ooey gooey, how to feel about one another.

He’s correcting misplaced priorities in a church and he’s giving them very clear guideline about what’s really important and how to get some of those things. Even, you know, I’m just gonna assume the best of the Corinthians.

I’m going to assume they really wanted to do the right thing. But just like in the name of love we do things that are kind of silly and stupid and don’t get us there. So did they.

And so the practice here is, love ruthlessly refuses to allow temporal good things to crowd out the eternal best things. And will you put a box around, I mean, I chose these words very carefully. Ruthlessly refuses. Put a box around that phrase.

And I want to give you a little warning. What we’re going to talk about is where a lot of the rubber really meets the road. If you want to simplify your life.

If you want to find yourself three months, three years, five years, ten years down from here and say to yourself, you know something? I love God now like I never dreamed I could experience. I have relationships like I never dreamed. There’s issues in my family that have come together that I never thought I would ever experience.

A lot of it is going to come down to you hearing today what God says to you and then you taking some very specific and radical steps. We will not talk about how to tweak your schedule and get five or seven percent more time to do a few more important things.

We’re going to talk about priorities that, if you get serious about what God wants, you’re going to have to say to certain whole sections of your life, you know something? That’s been way up here. You know what? For a season, I just need to stop doing that.

I gotta get refocused at a new level about what really, really matters.

Love ruthlessly…ruthlessly, that means, that means, aw, I don’t want, if I do that she’ll get mad at me. If I do that, I want to do that, well I get a lot of strokes out of that. Well, that’s one of my hobbies and I really, you know, ah, em, em, ah, ah.

And so you keep trying to tweak and what happens? Seven days later, you’re as overscheduled, over demanding and overwhelmed as you were two weeks before.

You’re a really smart people. If tweaking a little bit here or there was the solution, you would have solved this a long time ago.

So let’s look at, okay, God help us. How do we ruthlessly refuse to allow, notice it’s not bad things. The things that eat you up, they’re not bad things. They’re temporal. They’re really good things, but the good is always the enemy of the best.

His thesis here is that love is supreme. Love is our number one priority. That phrase: love never fails. It’s kind of a hinge. Last week, when we looked at it, it summarized what went before. Love never fails. It summarizes how love responds to failure.

And then it kind of opens the door to how love responds to misplaced priorities. The word “fails,” seventy different times in the New Testament, it’s translated, love never falls. It means, love will never be corrupted, love will never cease, love is permanent, love lasts.

He’s saying, loving God and loving people is the number one priority in your life. And see, what we’ve gotta do is step back and say, okay.

If someone picked up my schedule, if someone picked up where all my money went, if someone could pick up and read my mind about where my thoughts are when I didn’t have something to do, would my thoughts and my time and my money and my energy and my actions tell the story that, wow, this person really loves God and really loves people?

Or would it, would they listen to my words and say, this person says and thinks and actually is diluted into believing they really love God and really love people. But when you look at their time, their money, their dreams, their schedule, and their energy it looks like they really love themselves a lot. And they really have believed a few lies.

That’s what he’s dealing with that church then. And that’s what he’s talking to us about today.

The contrast, he says, love is supreme. Love’s the number one priority. The best of temporal things. The good. Even spiritually beneficial, powerful gifts, are far less important than love.

I mean, isn’t that exactly what he says? Look at the second half of verse eight. There’s a big word. Love never fails, BUT. BUT where’s there’s prophecies, they’ll cease. Where there’s tongues, in and of themselves, they’re going to go away.

Where there’s knowledge, I mean, even the great mysteries of God. So, the Apostle Paul, if you study this book carefully. Remember he told them in chapter 12? Prophecy is the most important of all the gifts. And now he comes back and says, you know, even that one’s going away.

The Corinthians believed that tongues was the most important gift. He goes, well yours is going away. And then he said, we would both agree that, I mean, knowledge, the very mystery and knowledge of life and God…

He says, that’s gonna go away. And those are the things, those are about ministry. Those are about the kingdom of God. I mean, prophecy and tongues and knowledge. And he says, wait a second. Compared to love, they’re not the number one priority.

The reason he gives us is in verse 9 and 10. The reason is because they don’t last. They’re temporal. Could you put a line under “they don’t last?” Because this is what he’s trying to get into their mind and into their heart.

He says, for we know in part, we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, when the perfect comes. A lot of debate on this. But the clearest explanation, things are going to be completed when Jesus comes back.

I mean, I don’t mean the rapture. I don’t mean when he comes back. I mean, when the second coming of Christ, when the absolute completion and perfection of all things gets sealed, there won’t be any need for prophesy, won’t be any need for tongues. The knowledge won’t be in part, it’ll be face to face.

We’re going to know him fully just as we’ve been already fully known. And what he’s saying is, look. You guys are so into arguing about this and stressed and pulled in all these directions about some very good things but what prophesy and knowledge all have in common is they’re temporal.

It’s not that they don’t matter at all. It’s like helping your kids learn sports at an early age or wanting them to get into a good college or wanting to be upwardly mobile or getting some extra training or wanting to do well in your job or, you know those aren’t bad things, are they?

I mean, if you would walk through carefully later today, the list of things that I put on the front page of your notes, every single one of those is really good. Isn’t it good to be giving? Yeah, it’s good to be giving. But if you give, give, give, give, give, give and don’t honor God and take some time to get renewed, then guess what? You just feel guilty and burned out.

I mean, it’s good to help your kids grow but if your whole world is traveling around in minivans and SUVs and all your weekends are taken up helping your kids hit balls and kick balls and chase balls to where you’re never together and connected from the heart…

See, some good means, some very good things. But it’s sort of a wash. Sort of, we’re living in this world where, you know, you’re not a good dad if you don’t do this, you’re not a good mom if you don’t do that.

I mean, you’re never going to make it as a single person unless you go here, go here, go here, do this, do this. I mean, you’re not successful and significant unless you have a bag that looks like  this, a watch that looks like this, and a car that drives like that.

And if you’re, and you know, it’s the Silicone Valley! If you don’t want to get up at, you know, five thirty in the morning and come home at eight at night, you’re not a player here. You want to make it or not?

And you gotta start asking, make what? So yeah, that’s right, so what do you want to make? You want to make it big and go through a couple marriages? You want to make it big and have kids that don’t know your name and don’t care about you?

You want to make it big and be successful and, you know, some people, you know, it’s not…they do it in ministry. Every time the church doors are open they’re here and doing this and doing that.

I was talking on the phone with a guy from another country last night that I’m going to do some ministry with in the future. And we just off the phone and I just said, could I just, you know, the guys, he’s a Harvard grad, he’s got theology, he teaches in the seminaries and is in charge of this humongous administrative side of a church of about 75,000 in another country.

And I said, just, is there one thing I could pray for you? And he said, yeah, there is one thing. Because there was a little picture of his daughter on the Skype - we had a little Skype call.

He said yeah. And I said, what is it? He goes, you know? I have three almost full-time jobs and there’s all this demand and my wife’s very understanding. But my daughter’s eight and she just doesn’t understand very much.

I said, well, what do you mean she doesn’t understand? He goes, well, I, I just don’t see her very often. I said, well what do you mean you don’t see her very often? I don’t see her. I mean, I work twelve to fourteen hour days and I’m gone early and I come home late so I just don’t get to see her very much.

And, I, this is a pastor. And I know that’s not right and it’s always followed by this. But. And I said, you know, when I’m going to be in your country, you know, in the near future why don’t you and I get some time. I’ve kinda lived where I was tempted and struggled with some of those things. I have four kids. And let’s make that part of our little time together.

Now I didn’t, I didn’t tell him, buddy, I’m gonna build a little trust with you and I’m going to spiritually kick your rear end as hard and as long as I can.

And I’m going to look you in the eye and say if you think these good things that you’re doing for God is the replacement of being her dad. Then you’re the only dad she’s got. Do you understand how good things, very good things, in the name of love, produce some really bad lives?

I’ll tell you, he’s gonna have a little girl that doesn’t like God, let alone love God. And will wonder why the church or God took her daddy away from her.

And some of you are gonna have kids that wonder why the name of your company did that. Or your drive did that. Or golf did that. Or your hobby did that. Or the speed of your life did that. Or how, just because your kids say, I want, I want, please, please, yeah, yeah, yeah. And you cave into them.

Guess what? You can give people what they want but if you don’t give them what they need, they like you for giving them what they want now, then they hate you later for not giving them what they need. That’s the difference between parents and kids.

A picture that helped me with this was a guy named Jim Dethmer, he gave a message that really helped me. And he had an illustration that I’d like to just steal.

Because, you know, there’s part of this, theologically, and you say, what do you mean, they’ll fade away, they don’t matter? It’s not like those good things you’re doing don’t matter. It’s not like ministry doesn’t matter.

So what’s it mean, what’s the picture? And I love the illustration he gave. He said, imagine that we were having a big party. Everyone in the church. Big party. All the services coming together and, you know, we rent a park and, I mean, we’re gonna have ice cream and we’re gonna have food and a barbeque and we’re gonna celebrate and there’s gonna be great music.

And so we get, like, four or five of our best artists and we say, this is going to be a celebration of what God’s doing at Venture and we want you to get this 2000 block piece of ice and we want you to create a sculpture that, I mean, gives glory to God that, just, magnifies the artistic talent and ability that you have.

And here’s this big room, it’s about, you know, thirty feet by forty feet. And this big block of ice. And, you know, they’re in there with chain saw. Errr, errrr, errr, chhh, chh.

And so they work for weeks and then they put it on these rollers and there are thousands of us and we’re having music and here it is, this beautiful fountain. And it’s out in one hundred degrees and who knows, maybe we could have chocolate coming out of it or something. But, you know, there’s swans and I mean, I mean, it’s just an amazing deal, right?

And, you know, we stop and all of us are going wow. Wow, can you believe? Man, unbelievable. Do you see, I mean, that is the most amazing. How did they do that with ice, right? You know, we’re all just like this.

Three hours later, party is over. What they did was wonderful. Their energy was wonderful. We appreciated it. But three to four hours later, some of us are volunteering, cleaning up the chairs.

We’re picking up the paper. The swan only has one arm. The thing’s melting. By dusk a handful of us are just cleaning up. And where that beautiful ice sculpture used to be, there’s just puddles of water.

See, it’s not that what you were doing or what I’m doing doesn’t have any value. It’s that it doesn’t have any value that lasts. And there’s some of us that’ll stand before the judgment seat of Christ and I just say this from God’s loving heart to you as a warning.

And you will spend your time and your energy doing very good things that you think, with all your heart, are in the name of love, in your relationships, in your families, and in your work.

And you’ll get near the end of your life or worse, by the time, if you have a family, your kids are grown, and what you’ll look back on is just pools of water that have no significance that are going nowhere and you wish you could turn back the clock.