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God's Boundaries for Abundant Living
Psychologists tell us that boundaries provide security, protection, and self-esteem. Long before psychology, God provided ten clear boundaries to protect His people from harm and give them the highest values ever recorded on the earth. "God's Boundaries for Abundant Living" gives a fresh look at the Ten Commandments and will help you discover God's boundaries for your highest, best and most abundant living.More from this series
“Set your mind on the things that are above,” Colossians 3, “not on the things that are on earth.” And so the Bible, over and over and says, the key to much of our life in Christ is the renewing of your mind.
And so, as we start, I want to talk about private thoughts and consuming passions. There are certain private thoughts that you have and I have and most everyone has and if they’re the wrong private thoughts, they lead to consuming passions.
Let me give you three quick examples.
First private thought is that: more is never enough. This is built in more to the American culture than others. But no matter how much you have, it’s not enough. If you have ten you want twelve. You get twelve you want fourteen. You got fourteen you want a hundred. I mean, who was it? Jean Paul Getty. They asked him how much money, how much money do you really need to be satisfied? And his, sort of, sly answer was, “About one more million.”
More is never enough. And if you believe, unconsciously, that more is never enough, it produces a drivenness and a push in your lifestyle.
The second lie that we believe is the, what I call, when/then thinking. When I’m out of school, then I’ll be happy. When I’m married, then I’ll be happy. When my marriage gets better, then I’ll be happy. When I’m stronger and sexier, then I’ll be happy. When I lose twenty-five pounds, then I’ll be happy. When I make the starting team, then I’ll be happy. When I get a good job, then I’ll be happy. When I make x amount of dollars and live in this part of town, then I’ll be happy. When I can finally drive this kind of car, then I’ll be happy. When I can finally get a place up in the woods or down by the beach along with my main house, then I’ll be happy.
When/then. When/then. When my spouse becomes a Christian, then I’ll be happy. When I’m famous and more spiritual, then I’ll be happy. It produces disillusionment. Because thinking people realize that whatever you’re asking God for today, whatever you’re working for, whatever you’re driven to get, the moment you get it, what happens? It’s a moving horizon. It has to be the next thing, the bigger thing, the better thing.
And you know something? It is amazing though. The more is never enough produces drivenness. The when/then thinking produces disillusionment.
And then the final misbelief and thinking is that success is how I’m doing compared to others.
The way I measure success, I compare how I’m doing compared to other people. The standard of whether I’m doing well is I look around and find out what other people are doing and I measure myself with them.
And it’s inbred. I remember, I can still remember probably five, six years old. Right in the front of my yard, going, my dad’s bigger than your dad. My dad could beat up your dad. Why didn’t I just say my dad’s big? Or why didn’t I say, my dad’s strong? But it was, I never, I learned, five or six, by the time, my dad’s bigger than your dad.
And then I learned when I went to school. And they would give me this little thing every six weeks that told me how I was evaluated. I never got a report card and said, “Oh my, I think I’m starting to fulfill my divine potential. I’m measuring myself with me. I think I’m gifted in certain areas and I’m making progress and I’m doing well compared to me and what God has given me.”
Is that how, what you all did when you got your report card? What did you do? You went to your sister, “What’d you get?” “I got a B.” “I got an A. Ha ha ha.” “Well, I got a C.” “I got a B.”
And then, you know, if you had a real smart sister you realized, don’t go there. What did you do? You found someone, you know, “Hey, what did you get in math?” And we compare one another. And sometimes our parents played into it unknowingly. “Why can’t you be smart like Bobby.” Because I’m not Bobby. I never said that back to my parents but…
And then we graduate from report cards. And so People Magazine says - what? The top ten dressed people in America are…right? And so, you look at what you’ve got on and say, “Wow.” I measure success by, hold it, the top ten sexiest people in America are… And they’re on the front and you look at them and go, “Well…”
And then, no, no, no, no, no. Then Forbes is going to say, the top 500 companies are… “Well, how’s my business doing with top Fortune 500?” And then, the Wall Street Journal’s going to come out. Or Money Magazine with the top hundred richest people in the world are… And then you look at their names and look at. And you know what? How I’m doing compared to others is a dead-end street.
We said how a man or a woman thinks in their heart, so you become. You are the product of your thinking. Here’s what I want you to hear. When you have more-is-never-enough thinking, it produces drivenness. When you have when/then thinking, it produces disillusionment. And when you measure success by how I’m doing compared to other people, it produces dissatisfaction. Because I’ll guarantee I don’t care where you get, there is someone smarter. Wherever you get, there’s someone richer. However sexy you think you are, there’s someone sexier. So, you’re always dissatisfied.
And it’s behind these types of thinking that produces passions and drives that the Bible calls, write the word in, coveting. It’s these passions and drives that the Bible calls coveting. The word in Hebrew is “hamad.” It’s an inner desire. It’s to delight in something. It’s an urge. It’s a passion. It’s to be highly motivated. It’s to be driven. It’s to be compelled. It’s to lust for. It’s, I-can’t-live-without, impulse.
And by the way, the word is neutral. Roughly half the time in the Old Testament, it’s used as something good. And about half the time, it’s used as something evil. But the idea is, a consuming passion, desire, drive for something. This word actually is used of God for His love for Israel. He has a “hamad” for the people of Israel. He has a “hamad” or a love, a desire for you, an intimacy with you. But it’s also used of this passionate desire that Achan had for - what? A bar of silver. It describes the passion and desire that David had…one more, Bathsheba.
In fact, you know what I haven’t given you is some psychology. David is the more and enough. Achan is the when/then thinking. And Ananias and Sapphira are success compared to how I’m doing to others. Aren’t they? Well, Barnabas gave a lot of money. So I’ll try and fake that. Achan is, when I have more money then I’ll be happy even though it’s under the ban. And what happened to him? David is, one more. And behind each of the sin of David and Achan and Ananias and Sapphira is coveting.
Some coveted another’s wife. Some coveted another’s reputation. Some coveted material wealth. And what the ninth commandment prohibits is coveting. If you want a definition, it’s an inordinate, ungoverned, selfish desire that leads you away from God and corrupts your relationship with others.
I can hear you. Please go slower and say that again. Okay, I will. Slower. It is an inordinate, ungoverned, selfish desire. And if you don’t want all those adjectives, just say a selfish desire, that leads you away from God and corrupts your relationship with others.
The command is, you shall not covet anything that belongs to your neighbor. Don’t covet his house, don’t covet his wife, don’t covet his manservant, his maidservant, his donkey, his oxen. Don’t covet. Don’t have this passionate, inner, inordinate, selfish, greedy desire to have what they have. Don’t believe that you need more to be satisfied and the way to get more is get some of theirs. Don’t do that.
Don’t believe when I have what they have, then I’ll be satisfied. Don’t believe that what real success is, is driving a car like them, and having a family like them, and knows as many Bible verses as him, or have a body like hers. Don’t do it! It’s what it says. That’s the command.
The tenth commandment is a command of the heart. I mean, you don’t do this one with your hands, you don’t do this with your feet. You don’t kill anybody, you don’t lie with your tongue. The tenth command is a command of the heart. The command makes clear that the law is not simply a legal code to relegate men and women’s actions, but it’s a divine axiom to govern the innermost being of men and women’s hearts. The tenth command is a command concerning your desires, and your drives, and your wants, and your goals. The tenth command prohibits, are you ready? It prohibits wrong thinking. And finally, the tenth command is a direct attack on envy, jealousy, and you know, just before you feel like, oh my lands, I thought the first nine were tough and I’m getting killed.
Let me tell you why. Why would God give this command? Why would your heavenly Father, why would the one who sent His Son to die for you on a cross, why would the God who cares so deeply for you make such a difficult and high command to say, don’t envy, don’t be jealous, don’t think more is better, don’t compare with others? Why? Because He wants to put a boundary around your personal contentment and your private joy.
He loves you. He wants you to experience joy. He wants you to experience contentment in Him with who you are, where you are, with what you have. Is this a violation of healthy, good, what I would call holy ambition? No. But this is a prohibition against coveting, desiring, being driven, to get, attain, capture, manipulate something of someone else’s with the private belief: then I’ll be happy. And since God knows that you’ll be disillusioned, since God knows that, you know, you’re going to just be, live a driven life. And since He knows it’s going to be pain, what’s He do? Don’t do it. Don’t do it.
How do you think you’re doing on this issue of coveting? I mean, how, you know, just if you were, scale of one to ten, don’t tell anybody, don’t raise your hand, don’t put up, like, how many fingers. But, I mean, just, sort of, how do you think you’re doing? Just, I want you to put the number in your mind. Because then I’m going to give you a test. And then I want you to take that number and evaluate it with, sort of, how the test comes out.
Because this one I think is so important is this reason. If you keep the tenth command, you’ll do pretty well on all the other nine. If you don’t covet, if you’re satisfied with who God made you, doing what you’re supposed to do with Him, and Him alone, what you’ll find is, an awful lot of those other commands involve hurting, stealing, lying, manipulating, being driven so you don’t take a Sabbath.
It all revolves around things with the belief system that it will deliver for you. And you know what? If you learn not to covet, you’ll find that most of these other commands, you’ll do pretty well on.
So turn the page if you already haven’t. Let me give you five symptoms that tell us, consuming passions are robbing our joy. See, that’s the issue. God does not want your joy to be robbed.
I mean, it was Nehemiah in the thick of it, what did he say was his strength? The blank of the Lord is my strength. What is it? The joy. The joy of the Lord. It’s a byproduct of the Spirit. It’s the Spirit of God doing something in your heart and your life and it flows out of your emotions that gives you energy and drive and excitement.
And you can go against all kind of adversity. And when you do not have the joy of the Lord, you’re often just driven by your passions. By goals. And with a mindset, more is better. Success means getting, achieving, having. And so let’s do a little evaluation. I think there are five symptoms that let you know where you’re at with regard to this issue of coveting.
Symptom number one is fatigue. F-A-T-I-G-U-E. Fatigue. Fatigue from high-speed lives, long hours, lives of high-stress, non-stop lives, get ahead, keep it up, go for it. Work, work, work, push, push, push. It can be in sports, it can be in music, it could be in school. It can be, I’ve got to do this in school and this in music and this over here and this over here and this in ministry. It can be work, it can be job, it can be I’ve got to be a perfect mom. I’ve got to be better than any other mom. I’ve got to have the cleanest house on the block. And on top of that have a Bible study and lead a Bible study with some other women. And, and, and, and.
It’s, I’ve got to be promoted by this age, I’ve got to make x amount of dollars by I’m thirty-five. By forty-five I have to own, outright, my house. By fifty, I’ve got to have x amount of dollars in my 401k. You name it. But it is push, push, push, push, push, go, go, go, go, go fast. And what you are, most of the time, is tired. Tired. And beat. And the symptoms are coming home and the La-Z-Boy looks good and the remote looks appealing and it’s just like… The ol’ remote and a bag of chips, you know, spiritual refreshment like never before.
Proverbs says, “Do not wear yourself out to be rich. Have the wisdom to show restraint.” And I would say, don’t wear yourself out to be a perfect parent. Don’t wear yourself out to have a perfect body. Don’t wear yourself out to have the greatest job.
Now, Godly ambition, goals, Spirit-directed, absolutely. Consuming desires that cause you to mis-prioritize and not have time with God, time with your family, time for yourself, and appropriate rest? Absolutely not.
Second indicator that coveting may be a bigger issue than you think, is debt. And what I mean here, debt that is not relegated to long-term appreciable items, is a symptom of coveting. Ecclesiastes 5:11 says, “The more money you make, the more money you spend.”
They did a survey of high school girls. You know what the number one occupation or preoccupation of high school girls is, in America? Recreational shopping. Ninety-three percent of girls. This is above being with their boyfriend. Ninety-three percent of teenage girls in America said, of all the things I could do, what I like to do most is go to the mall. Go to the mall and shop.
At least, six or eight years ago, for the average America family, I don’t know, it’s probably gone up. For the average American family, for every thousand dollars that they make, they spend thirteen to fifteen hundred dollars. That means that, see, no matter, you know what it tells you is, is that I am buying stuff I can’t afford, that I don’t need, to fulfill needs that don’t get met and I spend more than I have. Why? Because I’m not content. Why? Because more is better.
And, if I measure my success by you, if you get a new SUV and I don’t have one, I’ve got to have one. And I never say that because Christians would never say that. It would sound too ungodly. So what we do is, you know, we talk about, you know, we really need more room and, you know, we’re doing a lot of Bible studies and because we’re doing Bible studies, you know, our friend’s kids are coming and we’ve got to have the room in the back.
And we go to camp, like, once every two years and we need because of that and…
And we need to add onto the house because we really want to serve people and the reason for the pool is baptisms. We don’t need a pool. It’s baptisms. We have a calling of God to spend thirty-five thousand dollars that we don’t have because someday, someway, somehow, we might want to do a baptism in the back.
Can I tell you something? If your priorities are in line and God gives you the money and you’re giving off the top and you’re generous and if you want a pool, buy a pool. And enjoy the pool. If you don’t have the money for a pool and you put in a pool, you’re in debt because you’re believing a bunch of lies. If you can’t afford a nice car and you’re driving a nice car and you’re leveraged up to your nose and working obscene hours and living with unbelievable pressure, you have bought in to the coveting model.
You are a prisoner. How much joy is there in, should we pay Visa this month or MasterCard? And then, you know, you got these people on TV. “Oh, now wait! I can take all the equity out of your house, put you on another level of debt, and we can really help you get sunk deeper than you ever dreamed.
Debt, recreational shopping, you do understand. And this is why, you know, what goes into your mind may be the most important decision you make every day. You do understand that I think some of the smartest, some of the most creative people in the entire world
live in New York. And I’m sure there are some in Chicago. But I think of New York and LA and you know what their goal is? Their goal is to build discontent in your heart.
And what they want you to know is, if you don’t drink this beer, you’re not with it. If you don’t wear this shirt, you’re really out of it. Unless you wear these kind of shoes, drive this kind of car, and have this kind of watch, what kind of a wimp, dumpy person are you? I mean, what’s your problem? Message after message after message after message. Whatever you have….
Isn’t it amazing? You can get a new shirt and it feels really good for about two weeks and then it’s an old shirt. And then you see a new shirt. And this new shirt that was really new two weeks ago feels like an old shirt. And who wants an old shirt? Well, who says it’s new? Well, the guy who says it’s new says, well, they put a little collar on it and they changed the colors for this season and now you got a last year’s shirt. You want to be walking around with a last year’s shirt?
Their goal is to tell you who you are doesn’t measure up. What you have doesn’t measure up. But if you buy what we have. If you buy this timeshare, you’ll have quality family time like never before. If you buy this car, people will look at you different. Once you finally get this watch, people will know you have arrived. And it is driving us into debt because we believe a lie. And behind it is coveting.
The third symptom is worry. Ecclesiastes 5:12 says, “A working man can get a good night’s sleep but a rich man has so much that he stays awake worrying.” Concern, anxiety, energy that goes simply into keeping stuff up.
The fourth evidence of covetousness is conflict. James 4:1 says, “What causes conflict and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from the desires,” that’s our word lust, passions, “that battle within you?”
The test, I think, of friendship is when you hear something awesome and wonderful and great about a friend and your initial response is genuine joy. When you’re both single and longing for a date and haven’t had one and then they get one with the guy that you think, wow, he’s a great guy and he’s a holy guy, and all the rest. And your immediate response is not, “Why didn’t he ask me instead of her?” It’s, “Thank you, Lord.” Do you rejoice when something great happens to a friend?
And final symptom here is dissatisfaction. You will never be satisfied if you long to be rich. And I would add, or famous. Or have a perfect life, or … you fill it in. You will never get all you want. Success is always a moving target.
Coveting robs us of the achievement that we can enjoy and it shows contempt for God’s grace and provision. Did you ever think about it that way? That when you’re just never ever, ever satisfied with what God has given you, that it’s kind of contempt where, “God, will you do this?” And He does it. And you go, “Well, that’s nice but this is what I want.” And then He does it and you go, “Well, God, that’s not what I…”
And we get to the point where, I wonder if the Lord just sometimes crosses His arms and says, “You know, why don’t I just let you experience some not… instead of some blessing. Because no matter what I do, all you want is more.” Because you bought into the more is better. Bigger is better. When I get this, then I’ll be happy.
Fatigue, debt, worry, conflict, dissatisfaction. On a scale of one to ten, how you doing? How much of this could be behind, in your heart, behind maybe some issues you’ve been thinking about all week in the Ten Commandments. Could it be that some unresolved anger, some murderous thoughts are really because there’s conflict toward someone because you want something and you can’t get it?
Could it be that you unconsciously lie or even steal, because we found out we were all thieves, because there are some desires and you can’t get it and the way you think you can get it is to take a shortcut or say something that’s not true?
Could it be that God is no longer your God but there is an idol because unconsciously you covet and you believe that this job, or this person, or this thing will really make you happy? Do you see where I’m going? Once you break the power of coveting in your life, the other nine commands begin to fall into place.
Well, let’s get to the positive side. You look a little depressed and I’m feeling that way looking at your faces. You know, you’re looking at me like, “Man, I thought the first nine were tough and this is really, really…”
Well you know what? There’s good news. And the good news is that the reason God wants you not to covet is He has the desire for you to be content and He has the desire for you to be pure. Because purity produces peace and joy and love and God wants you to experience that. And as long as there’s this little motor inside [makes motor noise]. Gotta have, gotta have, gotta have, gotta have, he’s got it, I want it, he’s got it.
As long as you have that, you’ll never have peace. You’ll never have joy. You’ll never be able to enjoy and love the people that are in front of you because you’ll always be thinking about what you really need, that would really make you happy, tomorrow, or the next day, or next year.
Let me give you three keys to discovering this kind of contentment. In Philippians 4:12, the Apostle Paul says, first of all, we’re not going to get it overnight. It’s a process. I have learned. Circle the word “learned” will you?
“I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation. Whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” That means that there was a day when the Apostle Paul woke up and he thought more was better. There was a day when he when/then. When I’m a super duper, super duper Pharisee, then. And he learned that that didn’t work. And he got disillusioned. But he learned.
As an early apostle, I bet there were days he got up and thought, if I can just preach more to more people and reach all the Gentiles then… And finally, he learned, I’ve learned to be content that, you know, even though I’m in jail and it doesn’t make sense because I had this mission to reach the whole world, I’m going to trust that God…
I’m going to get up every day, I’m going to set the goals, I’m going to pray, I’m going to ask God for grace, and I’m going to bust it. But, Lord, You’re in control and I’m going to be content whether I have a little financially or a lot. I’m going to be content whether I’m out on the trail preaching, teaching or I don’t know why You got me in this prison because I’m not doing anything but writing a few letters. I’m glad he was in prison, aren’t you?
But what he learned was there could be guy chained next to him. You know, “…for this has turned out for my deliverance. Your prayers and the provision of Christ Jesus. And I want you to know that although some people are preaching Christ from envy and strife, I’m here with the whole Praetorian Guard and God is using it for His greater glory. The Word of God is going out like never before.”
And those believers, here in the Philippian church are more bold than ever before because of my imprisonment. He says, I learned. I learned that just because circumstances aren’t the way I want them, I’ve learned that just because I don’t have as much as I’d like, I’ve learned that even when I have a lot, by the way, I’m learning that it takes as much grace and maybe more grace to be content when God gives you more than you ever dreamed than when you’re really hurting, especially financially.
Well, let me give you three ways I think that you can do that.
Number one, stop comparing yourself with others. Well, this gets to the heart of it. You want to be content, you want joy, you really want to stop coveting, okay? Stop comparing yourself with others.
The Apostle Paul says in 2nd Corinthians 10:12, “For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves. But when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding.” In fact, it’s stronger than that. Without understanding, it’s kind of like, they’re nuts. They’re crazy. It’s illogical. It’s irrational.
Don’t compare yourself with other people.
I want to give you the next step beyond admiring is to rejoice and give thanks in what you do have.
I put a couple passages for you to meditate on and I suggest maybe some of these you write down on 3x5 card and you just, kind of, read them over at night and in the morning and put a few to memory. Ecclesiastes 5:19 says, “If God gives man wealth and property and lets him enjoy them, he should be grateful and enjoy what he has worked for. It is a gift from God.”
I think we need to very clearly, carefully teach and preach that it is a very serious sin to be materialistic.
The Bible says, God chooses, at times, to give wealth and add no sorrow to it.
And Ecclesiastes says, if God should choose, you know what? Wealth doesn’t have the power to make you happy, as evidenced by many, many, many wealthy people. And wealth doesn’t have the power to make you sad. But what it is, it’s a stewardship given from God, if God would choose.
And you’re thinking, “Well, yeah, those wealthy people.” You are those wealthy people, okay? Do you live in America? You are wealthy people. You drive a car, you have a house, you own a house, you’re in the top one percent of the world. You know what?
Then what I find is, we’re so self-conscious, is we don’t, on the positive side. If you drive a Lexus and your priorities are in order, enjoy it will you? I hear Christians all the time apologizing instead of giving thanks for what God gave them. If God gave you something nice and your priorities are in order just say, “Yes, the Lord, well, you know, I don’t deserve this but the Lord has been so gracious. What do you think? Some guy was staring thinking these were weird shoes like I wore them in public but I think they’re really cool and the Lord gave them to me.” Nah, I’m just teasing. But, you know, we’ve got to get that balance where we give thanks and enjoy what God has given you.
Notice that he goes on to say, “Do all things without grumbling or disputing that you may prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent children of God, above reproach, in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. Among whom you appear as lights in the world.”
If you really want to know if you’re coveting or not, whether you’re genuinely thankful or not, whether you’re really rejoicing or not just listen to what comes out of your mouth. And when it’s, I mean, it’s amazing, isn’t it? Instead of thanking God for the house I do have, I complain about what’s wrong about the house or I’m never going to be satisfied until we remodel the kitchen or until we do this and it only has so many square feet and we need more square feet. And I like this car but this is what I need. And these clothes are okay but this is what I really need and, you know, this school is okay but when I get to this school then…You know, it goes on and on and on. Rejoice and thank God and focus on what you do have.
Ask God what he wants you to do, set goals, develop strategies, pray, be moving toward whatever He wants.
But until He gives you something different, it is the will of God today to say, thank You for the wife you do have, the husband you do have, the limited health you do have, the finances you do have, the kids that you do have, the heart for God that you do have, the clothes that you do have, the country that you do live in. And you rejoice and you thank God for what you do have instead of focusing on what you don’t have.
In fact, as you look at that last verse on the page, every time you do that, you’re right in the center of God’s will. “For this is the will of God for you…” right? What is it? “…that you give thanks in all circumstances. For this is God’s will for you.” It’s a command.
Give thanks in all circumstances. Circle the word “all” will you? Do you know what the Greek word for “all” is? You ready for this? I’ve done exhaustive research. It’s “all.” It means everything. It just means, it means give thanks for all things. Not the things you like, not the things that are lined up the way you want. Give thanks for all things. This isn’t a high–five, gladding, you know, I’m thankful that, you know, my best friend just got cancer.
This is a willful, from the heart, saying, “Lord, I don’t understand why my best friend got cancer. But I’m going to choose to give thanks that because You are good and You are sovereign and You are faithful that You will work in this situation for good. Will You please deliver? Give the doctors wisdom. Heal my friend. But, Father, I refuse to get bitter. I refuse to get resentful. It is a fallen world. I choose to thank You that You will bring good out of this and so I thank You for this situation. Now, use me. And help my friend.”
“God, I thank You, this day, for my family. God, I thank You so much for the body that You gave me. Yeah, I’m working on some things but thank You for the body. Lord, thank You for the education You’ve granted me. Thank You for the abilities You’ve granted me. Thank You for the spiritual gifts You’ve granted me. Lord, thank You for these opportunities that You’ve given me. Lord, thank You for the friends that You’ve brought into my life. Lord, thank You for the opportunities that I never dreamed I would have.”
And you start to rejoice and think on those things, it will kill coveting. I mean, it will take coveting right out at the knees. And guess what? You’ll start to like yourself. You’ll start to be grateful for who you are. Because I don’t know who those people are making up the styles. And I don’t know who the people are that decide who are, like, the ten sexiest, best looking whatever on the front of People Magazine.
But I just don’t think Jesus is the one picking them. Just a thought. I don’t think that’s the standard. And you know what? Personally, I’ve decided I’m not going to be brainwashed. And I’m not going to buy into it. And I don’t think that’s how God looks at beauty. I think man looks on the outward appearance but I think God looks on the heart. I want to be thankful for what I do have. I want to focus on what is real and what is true and what is noble and what is honorable and what is praiseworthy, and anything of excellence. And I want to dwell on those things.
And when you do and when I do, you know what? Your circumstances, this is great. Your circumstances cannot change one iota. You may not even lose the five pounds. You may not even get the promotion. Your circumstances can not change at all. But you are the product of your thinking. And as a man or a woman thinks in her heart, so you become.
You begin to thank God for what you do have and come up with a plan to deal with the issues that need to be addressed and your joy level with your circumstances not changing at all, will just start to rise, and rise, and rise. And you know the interesting thing? It’ll give you the strength and the focus and the energy to deal with some of the things that you struggle with.
One final way to be content and to kick coveting out of your life. One, stop comparing yourself with others. Two, rejoice and give thanks in what you do have. And three, share what I have to help others. The key word is share. Share what I have to help others.
Paul writes to Timothy in 1 Timothy 6:17 to 19, “Command those who are rich in this present world.” That’s all of us in this room. And what’s the command? One, not to be arrogant. Two, don’t put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain. But three, to put their hope in God who richly supplies us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to be, to do good and to be rich in good deeds and to be generous and willing to share.
The Apostle Paul says, you want to be content? Look, tell those people that have a lot, don’t be arrogant. Don’t buy into the false belief that those things will satisfy. Don’t put your hope in wealth. Why? Because it’s so uncertain. It’s so uncertain. The market’s this way, it can crash in a minute.
This is a warning because God loves us and cares for us he says, it’s too uncertain. But he says, put your hope in God. Put your hope in the one who gave the Ten Commandments. Put your hope in the Lord Jesus. Why? Because He richly provides everything for your enjoyment. This is not a withholding God. This is not a God that never wants to give you something nice or good or pleasant or even material. He wants to give you all things to enjoy.
So what do you do when He gives you these things? Teach them to do good. That’s good works. Take the stuff that God gives you and share it. To be rich in good deeds and to be generous and willing to share.
Realize that everything you have is dropped into your hands, it doesn’t belong to you, it’s His, and He gets to pick whatever out of it, anytime, to share with other people. Create a generous mindset where you realize your time, your talent, your energy, your money, your stuff, your home, your pool, your car. It’s just vehicles to share and to help people.
And when you have that kind of mindset, here’s the promise: “In this way they lay up treasure for themselves,” which is awesome, eternal impact, “as a firm foundation for the coming age so that they might take hold of the life that is truly life.”
That’s where we started. You want to take hold of the life, the rich life, the abundant life, the satisfied life, the peace life, the life filled with loving, deep relationships. It will never happen unless you break the power of coveting in your heart. You want to take hold of the life that’s really life? He says, stop comparing with other people, rejoice and give thanks for what you do have, and then come up with a systematic way to share what you have and bless others.
And I encourage you to do it in the little things. Do it in little things. Learn to share your time. Learn to share the place in the line. Learn to share your money. Learn to share your stuff. Once you learn to do it in little things, it’ll become just a way.
What you want is you want to get new glasses and the glasses are called “Generosity.” And every situation you’re not asking, “How much for me?” You’re asking, “I wonder how I could bless someone?” And then here’s the deal. I do not understand this at all. Give and it will be given unto you. Good measure. Pressed down. Shaken together. Running over back into your lap. For in the same measure or amount that you give to others, it will be given unto you.
The divine paradox is, the moment you stop coveting and start sharing and saying life is a stewardship and you start giving away time, and energy, and resources, this bizarre deal happens. God pours it back into your lap. And all the things that you were going after? The peace, and the joy, and the encouragement, and often the blessing, God gives it to you. He just gives it to you. But the way to get there is not coveting.