A Word From Chip

God's Plan for Your Marriage

The current statistics about marriage are sobering. The classic union of a mother and a father with their own children is becoming extinct. Now less than 25% of all the families in America have a mom and a dad in the home with children. In addition, 60% of all people live together before they get married. And over half of all the children that will be born this year will be born out of wedlock.

Why the marriage fallout?

Some experts say the reason marriage is disintegrating is due to our failure to hold marriages and marriage commitments in high esteem. The Christian family is not immune to this fallout either. Most couples in our society bail out of their relationships as soon as things get difficult because they see marriage as a contractor temporary agreement, which can easily be broken.

But this isn’t the way that God sees marriage. According to the creator and architect of marriage – marriage is a holy covenant.

Contrary to modern thinking, marriage is not a contract between two people until “lack-of-fulfillment do you part.” It is a covenant, which is a serious, solemn vow before God. And the consequences of breaking this covenant are extraordinarily serious.

Ecclesiastes 5:4-5 warns against breaking a vow made before God, who hates divorce: “When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.”

When my wife and I were first married, we had a lot of problems. After we had our first argument, I remember thinking that I had married the wrong person. But what I came to realize was that when I entered into a covenant relationship with her, shebecame the right person. The reason I’m still married today is because of a lot of hard work but also because I made a covenant ... not just because I felt like staying in my marriage.

When we begin to view marriage as a serious, life-long vow and commitment, our view on divorce completely changes. Instead of contemplating leaving our spouses, we begin to start thinking, “What do I have to do to work this out?”  And “What do I need to change in me?”

It all starts with understanding God’s plan for your marriage:

Remember that marriage was God’s idea. His original design for marriage is found in the very first marriage in the Bible with Adam and Eve. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

The goal of marriage is oneness -- intimacy.  We all long to be loved and cared for – warts and all – and God wants this for us, too. He made us spiritual beings with a soul (our mind, will and emotions), and He made us with a physical body. Not only does God want you to be spiritually connected – to have both of your hearts connect spiritually – but He also wants you to have soul oneness and physical onenessThis is only possible if you spend time talking to one another, having fun together and being physically intimate with each other.

When you draw close to God, you’ll draw closer to one another. Instead of trying to fix your spouse, first admit your own wrongs and struggles and then ask God for help. None of us can be the wife or husband that God wants us to be without Christ’s help.

In this study, we’ll explore God’s design for marriage and the roles of husbands and wives, as well as offer clear and compelling help for couples longing for unity and fulfillment in their marriages. It’s my prayer that as we begin to fully trust in God’s plan for marriage, more and more relationships will be transformed.

Keep Pressin' Ahead,


Chip Ingram, Teaching Pastor
Living on the Edge

House or Home Marriage Edition

Do You Long for Love that Lasts a Lifetime?

It's no secret that marriage is in trouble in America. This foundational building block of society is crumbling before our eyes. And Christians aren't exempt from this trend... the percentage of divorce is increasing at the same rate among Christians and non-Christians alike.

There is hope. Despite the mounting pressure on couples, you really can have a great marriage, raise Godly kids and experience a healthy, life-giving home-life with the stability to weather life's storms. It will require hard work and focus but the reward is absolutely incredible. House or Home - Marriage Edition thoroughly explores God's design for marriage and the roles of husband and wife.

In this straight-shooting series, Chip Ingram challenges the status quo and gives clear, compelling help for couples that long for unity and fulfillment in their marriage. The stakes are high, and your marriage is on the line. It's time to go back to God's blueprint for building marriages that love and last a lifetime.

The House or Home - Marriage Edition Group Study DVD includes ten 25-minute group sessions. Message titles include:

  • Marriage – A Holy Covenant, Parts 1 & 2
  • Is There a Man in the House? Parts 1 & 2
  • Is There a Woman in the Home? Parts 1 & 2
  • What’s a Man to Do? Parts 1 & 2
  • What’s a Woman to Do? Parts 1 & 2