Removing the Roadblocks to Answered Prayer

Here’s the question we want to ask, and answer, today: why is it that, so often times, when you pray, and when I pray, God doesn’t answer? Okay? Why is it, if you listed all, wrote down every prayer that you really prayed, and you meant, and then you somehow could pull up on a computer screen all the ones that really got answered, why is it, so often, an awful lot of them don’t get answered?

Now, I want you to hold that question in the back of your mind, and I want to share a little parable, a modern-day metaphor, if you will, and this is about the power of prayer. And I’ll let you fill in the pieces, as I tell it, but picture number one comes right out of your home.

If you’re a lady, there’s a chance you’ve got the garden hose, and you’ve wrapped the hose around this part of the house, and then you’ve been around a barrel over here, and you’re watering the flowers, or the grass, or something. You’re feeling good. You’re feeling like these flowers are going, “Boy, this water tastes so good,” and you’re enjoying it, and doing it. If you’re a guy, you may be doing the same thing, or you may be washing the car.

And as you’re doing this, the water’s coming out, and then, all of a sudden, when you look at that hose, there’s nothing. There’s no water, maybe just a little trickle.

And so, you do what very intelligent people do: you walk over, and you check the faucet, thinking maybe one of the kids, or the dog, or someone, turned it off, and it’s on. There’s no problem with the power. There’s all the water that you need. But then, you go back and you look at the hose, and there’s nothing coming out.

Now, as an adult, you know what’s going on. But imagine if you were a kid, and this was the first time it happened, and you discovered what we all now know is the great principle of “the kink in the hose.” Right? Isn’t it amazing? You can be washing the car, and you look, and it looks fine, and under the third tire, there can be one little bend, can’t there? One little bend, and the water pressure is almost gone.

We’re going to talk today a little bit about some kinks in hoses. I call those “roadblocks.” This morning, we want to talk about “Removing the Roadblocks to Answered Prayer.” You need to hear the spirit of this, because some of you have grown up – and I don’t know where we got this, but a lot of people, at least in my generation, and older, grew up with this view of God that He’s always pointing His finger, that He’s got His hands on His hips, and He’s just waiting for you to mess up.

Another place that things get clogged is in people’s arteries, don’t they? Those blood clots, and I want you to think of God as a supernatural cardiologist, who loves you, and sees there’s a clogging in the artery, and because He cares about your life, and He wants the life-giving oxygen and nutrients in that blood to get to your entire body, He comes by, and, very lovingly, although painfully, may take a scalpel and make a major incision in your heart, and open it up, and do whatever is necessary to remove that blood clot.

See, God is here this morning, not down on anybody. The fact that you’re here says that your heart is tender, and open, and you want to hear from God. But when He points out the roadblocks, sometimes it makes us a little uncomfortable. So, you need to hear, His purpose for removing the roadblocks is not to make you and I feel guilty. That’s the enemy’s job. It’s to restore, to convict, not to condemn.

I’ve written here, “Roadblocks are anything” – notice – “known, or unknown, that hinders our prayers from being answered.”

And just like in a hose, it doesn’t take a big kink sometimes, does it? It doesn’t take a big wire. It just takes a little something that can cut off the power.

Roadblock number one you find in James chapter 4, verse 2. He says, “You want something, but you don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and you fight.” Did you notice all those verbs? Kill, covet, quarrel, fight – they’re words of human activity, of energy. There’s a desire, and there’s energy going in to reach the desire, and then he explains why this goal is being blocked: “You do not have, because you do not ask.” It’s simple, isn’t it?

Roadblock number one is prayerlessness. We simply fail to ask. God really wants, longs, to give you, to show His eminence, and His power, and His love. But, many times, the kink in the hose is, we don’t even ask.

Roadblock number two comes right out of this passage. It’s verse 3. Some people’s problem isn’t that they don’t ask, it’s, they do ask, but you’re going to find that they ask for the wrong reason. Verse 3 of James chapter 4 says, “When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives” – the King James, if you have it, says amiss; the word means “with an evil desire” – “that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

In fact, roadblock number two is wrong motives. We ask selfishly.

We can actually, I’ve learned, we can actually pray for the will of God, pray something like we’ve talked about, aligned with God’s Word, and it can really be, even, His will, and we can pray for God’s will, and pray for the wrong motives, and for the wrong reason, and God will say, “No.”

The most vivid example is a bit embarrassing, but it just so makes the point. I was a Christian not much over six or eight months, I took masking tape – a zealous, new Christian – I took masking tape, and, in two-foot-high, I put on my dorm room wall, “To the glory of God” – spelled out the letters with masking tape. So, when you came in my room, boy, you knew where this guy stood.

And then, I got on my knees every night, and I said, Oh, God, my dream was to play college basketball. And You’ve let me come here, and, Lord, I don’t want to be a starter. I know I’m only a freshman, but I don’t want to be a starter. I want to be a star. And I want to score twenty-five points a game.

And then, I had this picture – And when the Wheeling Register interviews me for the sports page, and says, “Well, how in the world, as a young freshman, did you come here and average twenty-five points a game?” I’m going to say, “To God be the glory.” You can see through this one, can’t you?

I prayed that prayer for about three and a half years. Two hamstring pulls, a pulled quad, a stress fracture, five different coaches, a drug bust on the team. I was tackled in practice once, by a guy who was on some illicit drugs. My college career, I spent hours upon hours on the bench, never scored twenty-five points. And about the last third of my senior year, I remember getting very real, and very honest with God, and saying, God, I love this game. If I never, ever get to play this game again, it’s Yours.

See, God knew that if He gave me the desires of my heart, He would have such an egomaniac on His hands, He could never use me for anything. And He just allowed adversity, adversity, adversity, adversity. Instead of giving me my dream, what He started doing was building my character, and my dependency.

And by the last third of my senior year, God began to open some doors. And after a very unsuccessful, frustrating “college career,” I got a note in the mail, from a person I’d never heard of in my life, that ended up with me playing with a basketball team that traveled all over South America. And when I got on the team, I was shocked, because the other guys were from UCLA, and USC, and Oregon, and New Mexico State, and they were 7’1” and 6’11”, and 6’10”. I’m thinking, What am I doing on this team? And I did the same thing the next summer, and then the following winter, all throughout the Orient, and the Philippines.

See, God longs to give you the desires of your heart. I got to play against Olympic teams, all over the world, and share Christ. But until the motives got right, God was not going to allow me to have the desires of my heart.

Think about what you’re praying – application time. What are you praying for? Even good things, like that your mate will grow closer to Christ – why are you praying it? Even good things, like that your kids will do well, and that business will go well, and finances will – and you’ll have an impact – why are you praying it? Because, see, this isn’t the first time I’ve dealt with this, and it’s not the last, probably not for you, either.

In John 14, Jesus teaches us how to pray with the right motives. John 14:13 – Jesus prays, and He says, “I will do whatever you ask in My name” – and then, get this – “so that the Son may bring glory to the Father.”

Jesus’ motivation in prayer was not self-fulfillment, a better self-image, a happier life, a bigger home, a nicer business, and a connected family! It was the glory of God. If you get any of those things, God bless you. That is not God’s primary desire for your life. Those are all byproducts.

The word glory, in Hebrew, means “a great weight, a massive weight, of magnitude.” The best way I can describe it is, wanting God’s glory is to enhance His reputation. Jesus prayed, “My life, My heart, My prayers are so that when You answer them, people won’t think what a neat person I am, but they’ll see who You really are – Your greatness, and Your power, and Your love, and Your mercy.”

If that’s your motive, you’re on praying ground. But you can pray a lot of biblical things, and honestly pray for selfish reasons, and you can have a kink in your hose.

The greatest example in Scripture, to me, is Moses. Exodus 32 through 34 – you ought to read it sometime. It’s great. And Moses is taking these people out of Egypt, and they are rebellious, stiff-necked, and they have just pushed God to the limit. And God says, Moses, step aside! I’m starting over. Whoo. I’m going to clean this place out. I’m sick of these people. I’ll start a new nation, just with you.

Now, I don’t know about you, but I’d say, “Sounds like a good idea, to me. Great, let’s get rid of them, and let’s…” And do you know what Moses said? “Lord! Lord! What about Your name? What are the Egyptians going to say? The Egyptians are going to say that God had enough power to take them out of Egypt, but the God of the universe didn’t have enough power to lead them through the wilderness? Oh, no! No!”

And Moses literally stands in the gap before God. He says, “For Your name’s sake, for Your reputation’s sake, for Your glory and reputation among all,” he said, “if You’re going to blot them out, You need to know, I’m going to step right in with them, and You blot me out, too.”

Unselfish. He coveted God’s glory. He coveted Christ’s reputation. That’s what God wants for us.

Roadblock number three is sin in the heart, or the life.

The context of this passage – Isaiah 59, verses 1 through 3 – is, the nation of Israel was very religious, very religious – going to the Temple, doing all the right stuff, offering the sacrifices – but they weren’t getting the answers to their prayers.

And so, they come to Isaiah, and they say, “Maybe God’s winding down. Maybe He’s tired. Maybe He’s having a bad day. Maybe He’s just not up to the job anymore. Because we pray, and it’s obvious that we’re good and righteous people, but He just can’t come through! Maybe He just doesn’t have what it takes anymore.”

And so, Isaiah responds to that, in verse 1 of Isaiah 59. He says, “Surely the arm of the Lord is not too short to save, nor His ear too dull to hear.” You can almost hear Isaiah saying, “Hey, look, buster. There’s a problem here, but it ain’t with God, trust me. His arm is strong to do whatever. If His ears aren’t hearing your prayers, it’s not because He has a hearing problem.”

And in verse 2, he says, “You want to know what the problem is?” He says, “But your iniquities have separated you from your God, and your sins have hidden His face from you, so that He will not hear.”

And then, he didn’t leave it vague. Verse 3 – he gives them four examples. He says, “For your hands are stained with blood, your fingers with guilt. Your lips have spoken lies, and your tongue mutters wicked things.”

The Scriptures teach that when there is sin in my life, when there’s sin in my heart – this isn’t reference to having a few ups and downs, and struggles, and failing here and there. We all have that. We’re talking about God revealing: This is wrong in your heart, and your life, and you say, “Tough. I’m not changing this one.” It’s Him showing you that you’re selfish, or there’s an attitude toward another person, or an unforgiving spirit, or a moral issue, and you say, “I’m not changing.”

In fact, the principle, here, is in verse 18 of Psalm 66. It says, “If I regard wickedness in my heart, the Lord will not hear.”

You might ask, why? Why? God’s first and primary goal in your life, on this whole planet, is not to make you happy, or successful, or have a connected family, or to boost your self-esteem. His primary purpose on your journey through this planet is to make you like His Son. Period.

And so, when you have an issue in your life that’s unresolved, and you pray for these things, God doesn’t answer because He wants to allow some frustration to occur, so that, as you pray, your prayers will shift from the outward focus to asking the question, is there a kink in my hose anywhere? Is there a short in the wire? Is there something You want to do in my life that I’m unaware of?
When you have an issue in your life that’s unresolved, and you pray for these things, God doesn’t answer because He wants to allow some frustration to occur, so that, as you pray, your prayers will shift from the outward focus to asking the question, is there a kink in my hose anywhere? Is there a short in the wire? Is there something You want to do in my life that I’m unaware of?

Roadblock number three is sin in the heart, or the life.

The context of this passage – Isaiah 59, verses 1 through 3 – is, the nation of Israel was very religious, very religious – going to the Temple, doing all the right stuff, offering the sacrifices – but they weren’t getting the answers to their prayers.

And so, they come to Isaiah, and they say, “Maybe God’s winding down. Maybe He’s tired. Maybe He’s having a bad day. Maybe He’s just not up to the job anymore. Because we pray, and it’s obvious that we’re good and righteous people, but He just can’t come through! Maybe He just doesn’t have what it takes anymore.”

And so, Isaiah responds to that, in verse 1 of Isaiah 59. He says, “Surely the arm of the Lord is not too short to save, nor His ear too dull to hear.” You can almost hear Isaiah saying, “Hey, look, buster. There’s a problem here, but it ain’t with God, trust me. His arm is strong to do whatever. If His ears aren’t hearing your prayers, it’s not because He has a hearing problem.”

And in verse 2, he says, “You want to know what the problem is?” He says, “But your iniquities have separated you from your God, and your sins have hidden His face from you, so that He will not hear.”

And then, he didn’t leave it vague. Verse 3 – he gives them four examples. He says, “For your hands are stained with blood, your fingers with guilt. Your lips have spoken lies, and your tongue mutters wicked things.”

The Scriptures teach that when there is sin in my life, when there’s sin in my heart – this isn’t reference to having a few ups and downs, and struggles, and failing here and there. We all have that. We’re talking about God revealing: This is wrong in your heart, and your life, and you say, “Tough. I’m not changing this one.” It’s Him showing you that you’re selfish, or there’s an attitude toward another person, or an unforgiving spirit, or a moral issue, and you say, “I’m not changing.”

In fact, the principle, here, is in verse 18 of Psalm 66. It says, “If I regard wickedness in my heart, the Lord will not hear.”

You might ask, why? Why? God’s first and primary goal in your life, on this whole planet, is not to make you happy, or successful, or have a connected family, or to boost your self-esteem. His primary purpose on your journey through this planet is to make you like His Son. Period.

As a byproduct of your relationship with Him, your self-esteem will grow. There will be blessing. You’ll have joy that’s incredible. But His number one agenda for your life is to make you just like Jesus: loving, holy, pure, compassionate, honest, a man or woman of integrity.

And so, when you have an issue in your life that’s unresolved, and you pray for these things, God doesn’t answer because He wants to allow some frustration to occur, so that, as you pray, your prayers will shift from the outward focus to asking the question, first, “Is this God’s will?” and then you check the Scripture and say, “Yes,” to where you and I would start asking, Lord, is there a kink in my hose anywhere? Is there a short in the wire? Is there something You want to do in my life that I’m unaware of?

I got done with my message, and I looked at the whole thing, and I had this awakening. And I looked at it all, and I thought, Wow! Prayer is such a double-edged sword. There’s part of it that so attracts me. It’s so exciting, this power, and this provision, and marriages coming back together, and kids coming in the door and saying, “Mom and Dad, I’m sorry,” and, “Yeah, let’s pray! Are you ready to pray?” “Yeah, let’s pray!” And you all go, “Yeah! Yeah!” Right?

But there’s another side of prayer is that you don’t pray like that, just saying, Okay, God. That takes some real, serious, prolonged, honest times before God, where you come before His throne.

Now, here’s the double-edged sword. What I’ve learned is when I come and I want to believe, and I want to pray unto God, and when I know it’s according to His will, and I want to come boldly, and in confidence, as I sit quietly before God, He starts showing me about my attitudes, and my pride, and words that are coming out of my mouth, and the tone of voice that I speak to my kids, and the insensitivity that I have for my wife, and He begins to show me all kinds of areas. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t like it!

And I’ve got a solution: Don’t pray. It’s worked for me. I’m serious! That’s why I don’t want to pray! I don’t want to pray because – have you ever heard that little line, “Prayer changes things”? It’s true. But you know who changes the most? The one who prays.

And see, this is the most critical message, in terms of long-term impact, because if you decide that you want to experience His power, and you want to see the supernatural, and you want to see Him do some major things, I guarantee, you get honest before Him, and He’s going to say, from a Father’s love heart, Chip. Bill. June. Sally. There’s a kink in the hose. The reason there’s no power is, there’s a kink in the hose.

He’s not like your brothers and sisters, growing up. He doesn’t go hide in the bushes, and hold the hose like this, right? So that when you look at it, and then, you go…

We think God’s like that; He’s not! He says, now, point it out, and He’ll take away that kink so that the love can wash you, and cleanse you, and forgive you, and empower.

So, what’s the application? The application is to do what David did: Psalm 139:23 and 24, where David prays, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and see if there’s any wicked way in me.” And then, he goes on to say, “Cleanse me, and lead me in the everlasting way.” It’s confession. It’s getting honest with God about any sin in my heart, or in my life, so the kink can come out of the hose.

Roadblock number four, as you look over to the side of the page, is an unforgiving spirit.

That’s the key word in there, unforgiving. We’ve looked at Mark 11:24, but maybe you didn’t know verse 25 comes right after it. It says, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you’ve received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him” – notice why – “so that your Father in heaven may forgive your sins.”

An unforgiving spirit makes it impossible for God to hear our prayers. How can we, who are God’s children – and He’s extended mercy, and forgiveness? And I’m talking about the clenched grudge, “I’m going to walk with God, and I’m going to love these people, but that person is on my black list. I don’t look at them. I don’t talk to them. When bad things happen, I secretly rejoice.” An unforgiving Spirit, Jesus says, “I forgave you, when you didn’t deserve it. I command you to loose, or forgive, others.”

Do you have someone that you have an unforgiving spirit toward? Forgive them. Forgive them. Forgive them so God can take the kink out of your hose.

Roadblock number five is the wrong treatment of our mate – or you can put it “husband/wife.”

In verse 1 of 1 Peter 3, it says, “Wives are to submit to their husbands,” but notice what it says in verse 7: “Husbands, in the same way, be considerate” – literally, it means “live according to knowledge, or with understanding” – “as you live with your wives. Treat them with respect” – and the word respect, there, really means “honor.” It was used of kings. Ladies, you’re eating this up, aren’t you? “…as with the weaker partner as an heir with you of the gracious gift of life.”

Now, basically, men, it says we’re supposed to love our wives, and treat them in an understanding, compassionate way. Why? “So that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

Unity in our homes is a prerequisite for power with God. The word for hinder, there, it means, literally, “to cut up,” or “to cut into.” If you were an army, and you were running away from another army, what you would do is you would cut up the road to make it a hindrance, so they couldn’t get their horses and chariots on it.

And what he says is that when your life, when your marriage isn’t what God wants it to be, gentlemen, when we’re harsh, insensitive, or ladies, when there’s a lack of respect and submission, that what you’re doing is, you’re putting roadblocks between you, and God, and the effectiveness of your prayers.

And, again, ask, why would God hold up your prayers? Because He’s more concerned that the wife and the husband have this kind of relationship that models the love of Christ than He is you getting what you’re asking for.

And as you ask and ask, and you know it’s God’s will, and you don’t get it, some of you will be like me, and you’ll get smart enough to say, “Hmm, is there any problem that I should look at?” And He’ll gently take that orange wire, and put it in just the right position, and say, Maybe your marriage needs a little attention, and you give it that attention, and we’ll get this power on in the things that you’re praying about.

Roadblock number six: stinginess in our giving.

There is a direct correlation, in Scripture, between the power of prayer, and the generosity of our hearts. Proverbs 21:13 says, “If” – here’s a condition – “a man shuts his ear to the cry of the poor, he too will cry out and not be answered.”

Wow. That’s pretty powerful, isn’t it? When there are people with need, and we shut our ears to their cry, it says, God, in turn, then shuts His ears to us. When your heart, and my heart, is open, and pliable, and generous to meet the needs of other people, then God hears our prayers. In fact, there’s a correlation that as we are givers and lovers of others, that God promises He’ll just keep the pipeline full, so that…

Do you know why He entrusts certain people with money? He entrusts certain people with money because He knows they’ll give it away. And some people He won’t trust with money because they’ll just use it on themselves, to bring destruction on themselves. So, there are certain people that God will entrust lots of money to, because they have really loose hands, really loose hands. They just keep passing it on.

In fact, the principle – I’ve put it down. Look at verse 8 of 2 Corinthians chapter 9, in bold. It says, “God is able” – or “powerful,” the word we get dunamis from. It means “dynamite.” “God has dynamite power to make” – now, circle all the times the word all shows up. “God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound” – or “overflow” – “in every good work.”

Is that a promise to God’s child? Wow! Isn’t that great? He says He’s got this boatload of grace, and mercy, and gifts, so that all grace can abound, for all things, for all your needs, so you have enough to share.

Notice, now, the context. Verse 8 is only true of people who practice verses 6 and 7. What’s verse 6 say? “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.”

It’s a farming, agricultural – this is nuts and bolts. If you throw out fifteen seeds, you get “X” amount of crop. You throw out fifteen hundred seeds, you get “X” amount of crop. That’s all he’s saying. That’s how it works. The more you plant, the more you sow, the more you get back.

And then, he now spiritualizes it, and applies it to us. Verse 7: “Each man should give what he or she has decided in his heart.” See, it’s a personal matter of generosity between you and God, not pressure, not manipulation, not guilt, not “ought,” but, “as he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly, not under compulsion” – why? Here’s the reason – “for God loves a cheerful giver.”

The word cheerful is where we get our word hilarious. God loves a hilarious giver. He loves people who aren’t tight. He just loves people who say, “My stuff, my home, my money, my time, my energy – it’s God’s. I’m going to share it, and I’m confident that, as I share it, He just keeps the pipeline filled up.”

Six roadblocks.

Roadblock number one: Is it prayerlessness? Are you failing to ask?

Roadblock number two: Are you asking with the wrong motives, asking selfishly?

Roadblock number three: Is there sin in your heart, or your life, that you just know it, and you simply need to confess, and repent, and decide, today, That’s it. I’m not doing that anymore?

Roadblock number four is an unforgiving spirit. Is there someone you need, right now, just to forgive, to let go of, maybe even need to make a call, or write a letter today, make restitution?

Roadblock number five: Is there unity in your marriage, or does your marriage hinder your prayers?

And roadblock number six: Is there stinginess in your giving?

Ask the Holy Spirit to just search you, not because He’s down on you, but so He can get the kink out, so the love and the power of God can really flow into your life.