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It’s Practical

From the series Resilient

Difficult circumstances provide opportunities. When we long to get out from under the oppression and trouble of life’s challenges, there are three practices resilient people have in common. In this message, we’ll learn what they are – and how they not only give us relief, but bring blessing to others, in the process.

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We have been talking about this idea of resiliency and what resiliency really is it’s the ability to withstand or to recover from a difficult situation. It’s this ability to stand strong in the face of a storm, to be knocked down, but the ability to get back up. And so we have been asking and wrestling with this question: how do you have resiliency in the face of a difficult situation?

When things at home are maybe a struggle or things at work or the future is uncertain, how do we have resiliency in this? And we have been studying the book of James. If you want the full context, you can actually go back and look at Acts chapter 8 and see the moment of what he is navigating. James was the half-brother of Jesus. He was the leader of the church in Jerusalem and the church had just experienced intense persecution and everyone was scattered from their homes and afraid. Their lives were upended in this moment.

And that’s why he opens up his letter to them this way.

It says, “Consider it pure joy,” or, “all joy my brothers and sisters whenever you face trials of many kinds.” And we are all experiencing different kinds of trials, even though we are all in this same trial together, isn’t it true?

And he says, “Consider it joy,” you can actually reckon it joy in this moment. Why? Because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. It develops this ability to remain under, this strength to withstand. It develops when we persevere – a resiliency.

“Perseverance, it says, “must finish its work.” We must allow it to finish its work – why? “So that we can be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” I think this is such a great picture of what it looks like to be resilient in our day, of what does it look like with good times or bad times? In difficult situations and when things are going great to be a person who has been developed to the point where there’s this maturity, there’s this wholeness. Where your circumstances don’t determine whether you have or lack anything.

And so, we have been wrestling with this idea of resilience and talking about it’s tempting. Like, how do you have resiliency in the face of temptation? What do I do when temptation knocks?

It’s emotional. How do you navigate the destructive emotions that we are all experiencing? This is an emotionally disorienting time, isn’t it? And what do I do with the emotions inside of me?

It’s powerful. And our response to God’s Word and what it does to transform us.

We are going to talk about: it’s practical. Like, James is going to get really practical. Like, what do we do? And maybe, have you ever wondered as we have been talking about this, like, what do resilient people do? What are their habits? What are their practices? What do they do whether it’s a good time or a bad time, the circumstance may change, but these activities, these practices do not change?

And what we are going to discover, there are specific practices of resilient people, regardless of their circumstance. And so, if you’ve got your Bible, would you open up to James chapter 1, verse 26?

He begins this way, “Those who consider themselves religious,” religious is, you know, we don’t naturally think of ourselves as religious. We think of ourselves as spiritual. He says, okay, well then say, “Those who consider themselves spiritual,” or those who consider themselves a Christian, those who consider themselves a follower of Jesus. This word religious refers to the outward acts of worship.

“Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves and their religion is worthless.” Then he goes on, “Religion that God our Father accepts is pure and faultless is this: “To look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”

It’s practical. In fact, what we are going to see is there are three specific practices of mature followers of Jesus. Or better yet said, resilient people. What are these three practices?

He is going to first say mature followers of Jesus, those that have been refined and are resilient, the first practice is they actually have the ability to bite their tongue.

They have the ability, as James says, to rein in their tongue. That word rein is the word bridle. It’s the picture of a bit in a horse’s mouth that controls it, that you bridle – you’re able to hold in check.

You notice he said, “Those who consider themselves religious,” that are like, “Hey, we are in this. We are followers of Jesus,” and yet, if you’re not able to control what is coming out of your mouth, he’s going to say something pretty powerful. He’s going to say we deceive ourselves.

That word deceive, one writer says, “The self-deceived person is the one whose religious acts do not make a difference in the way they live.” Like, I am worshipping God, but then my words that come out to my neighbor, my words that come out to my kids, my words that come out about my coworkers are just cutting.

He says you can’t be worshipping God and say, and then have your words tell a different story. And this is what James is doing. He’s actually connecting our understanding of worship with our understanding of wisdom and saying those two go hand-in-hand.

Proverbs talks a lot about this. Think about this. Proverbs 10:19, “Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongue.” Proverbs 11:12, “Whoever derides their neighbor has no sense, but the one who has understanding holds their tongue.” Proverbs 17:27, “The one has knowledge uses words with restraint.” This whole idea of bridling or holding back our tongue, like spiritual…this practice of, okay, it’s starting to come and I’m going to hold it back.

Well, why does James go to the extent of saying, man, your religion is worthless. That’s kind of harsh and I know it’s pretty convicting for me. Well, he’s building off of what Jesus was saying Luke chapter 6, verse 45. Jesus has something that’s so powerful and poignant when it comes to our words and revealing.

He says, “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” The mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

So, this is why this is so important. See, I think when we think about our words, we are just like, “Wow, I didn’t mean to say that.” Or we might say, “I’m just trying to be honest. Keep it real.” It just slipped out and it’s no big deal.

And what Jesus would say is that what comes out of our mouths actually reveals what’s going on inside of our hearts. Like, what is flowing out of our mouths, and especially in these moments, in these crisis moments, it begins to reveal the condition of our heart. It’s not just a thoughtless word or just, “Ah, I didn’t mean it.” Jesus would say, no, there are actually some heart things going on in there. In fact, here’s what, just imagine, if you had a dog that ran up and jumped on you right now or maybe your kids jumped on you right now. Or maybe your roommate bumped you. And what you know and what I know is the minute we get bumped, the contents in your cup and my cup spill out.

And whatever the content is is what is going to spill out. And so if you have orange juice, orange juice is going to spill. If you have coffee, coffee is going to spill. If you have water…

And here’s what Jesus is saying when it comes to our words, like, what spills out of your mouth when you’re bumped is revealing the contents of your heart. He’s like, what is that?

And this is why this is so powerful, this practice in these seasons of resiliency of, like, okay, I’m going to be so aware of my words right now. Because I know that it’s pointing to something in me that has this potential to spill out and it’s actually pointing to some heart things. It’s like an indicator. I’ve got to be aware of my heart.

Let’s think about this, maybe reining in when bumped, maybe for some, gossip word that come out or boastful words. Maybe it’s slander, you’re cutting someone down or criticism. It’s easy when bumped, I think in this season for me to go towards the naturally negative.

Or maybe it’s crude and maybe it’s harsh words. For you, as you have been bumped, we have all been bumped, what’s been coming out? What has been spilling out? And Jesus would say it’s going to reveal something deeper in our hearts.

When we were talking about “it’s emotional,” and I was talking about anger, I’m trying to gather the whole family to sit down and watch the service together and Miles was getting up, going over here and Ryder is going over here. And I couldn’t get everybody all focused. And you probably have had this same experience. I’m trying to get everyone focused. And I’m finding, as we are about to watch me talk about anger, that I’m getting angry in the moment and getting frustrated with my kids. And I’m just like, and my kids can feel it. And my daughter Ella just was like, “Are you getting angry and going to talk about anger?” I’m like, “Oooh! Kids, man!” And she was right.

See, sometimes what gets bumped is just frustration and these emotions. And it’s just that indicator of something deeper going on inside of me. And so, what the mature person of Jesus or the resilient – they have this ability to bite their tongue and then bring their heart before God.

See, it’s like I can bridle it, I can hold it in, and that takes a process, that takes time, it just takes awareness. But then it’s like, okay, I’m going to bring my heart. I’m going to bite my tongue, I’m going to bring my heart before God.

The first area, bite your tongue. Second, roll up your sleeves and love. Notice what he said, “Religion or worship, spiritual acts that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this, to look after orphans and widows in their distress.” He’s going to say resilient people don’t simply look in and try to figure out how do we just make it through? What they have the ability to do is they are going to roll up their sleeves and look out and go, “Who can we love?”

Who can we love? Who are the people that God has put along our paths to be the hands and feet of Jesus? This word look after means to go see a person with helpful intent. It’s actually proactive. I’m going to go see a person. I’m going to go out of my way and my heart and my intent is: how can I help? In what ways can I bring aid and hope to you?

The apostle Paul would say it this way in Galatians 5:6, the only thing that counts, think about this, that’s a big statement. The only thing that counts is faith. Faith is the confidence that God is who He said He is and He will do what He said He will do. Faith, your worship with God, expressing itself through love.

That we are fundamentally, regardless of what the circumstances are, to be a people of love, marked by love. In fact, the early Church in the moments of crisis were fundamentally known for their love. When plagues hit a town, they would risk their lives to care for sick and to bring aid while everyone else fled.
He says, “Roll up your sleeves and love.” This gets back to the heart of God. Micah 6:8 says, “He has shown you, O man, what is good. What does the Lord require of you? But to act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” That we are supposed to have this combination of just acts and love of mercy that looks after the most vulnerable and hurting in our society.

Psalm 68 talks about that God is a Father to the fatherless. That He’s a defender of the widow. That He sets the lonely in families. Like, that’s the heart of our God and so that is to be the heart of us.

And so, followers of Jesus, we are to roll up our sleeves. Really resilient people have this practice, whatever the season, and we are going to love. Well, who are we going to look after? We are going to look after those who often get looked over. We’ve got to look after those that so often get looked over.

Well, who are they? First, it’s the vulnerable. It’s the vulnerable. Maybe vulnerable economically. Maybe vulnerable when it comes to health or age. Think about the foster care system.

The vulnerable. The ostracized. The outcast. The overlooked. As followers of Jesus, we are to be a voice for the voiceless. We are to lean in and call out for justice. We are to be a people that says, “Okay, we are going to fight for those who aren’t able to fight on their own to bring about healing and hope and life.

See, this is just what it means to be a follower of Jesus, no matter what season. The vulnerable, the ostracized, and the invisible. The people we don’t see, the people that we tend to overlook. I think in this season, the invisible is often the homeless and what they are going through.

Invisible might be a neighbor that you just really had no idea what they were going through because we often don’t ask maybe that deeper question and know what is really going on in their life and their struggles. It says, “Roll up your sleeves and love.”

My friend Christina says it this way, “You don’t have to look hard to find pain and hurt.” And boy isn’t that right? You don’t have to go far. We just have to start looking. We have to do that look after instead of looking over.

As this season hit, I have one neighbor down the street, she lives on her own, she’s an older lady. And I just wanted to go, “Hey, however we can help. Whatever you need.” And she emailed me and said, “Hey, could you run and get this prescription?” Or, “I need this picked up at the grocery store.” It’s just a simple, simple way. Because I think sometimes we hear this and we think it has to be big, grandiose or…

And I think really it’s just what Andy Stanley said so many years ago, “Do for one what you wish you could do for everyone.” See, we get overwhelmed by the needs, we get overwhelmed by the pain around us, and so unfortunately what happens is we end up not doing anything at all.

And so, you can’t do everything for everyone. But you can and I can do something for someone.
Resilient people don’t simply look in and try to figure out how do we just make it through? What they have the ability to do is they are going to roll up their sleeves and look out and go, “Who can we love?”

Who can we love? Who are the people that God has put along our paths to be the hands and feet of Jesus? This word look after means to go see a person with helpful intent. It’s actually proactive. I’m going to go see a person. I’m going to go out of my way and my heart and my intent is: how can I help? In what ways can I bring aid and hope to you?

The apostle Paul would say it this way in Galatians 5:6, the only thing that counts, think about this, that’s a big statement. The only thing that counts is faith. Faith is the confidence that God is who He said He is and He will do what He said He will do. Faith, your worship with God, expressing itself through love.

That we are fundamentally, regardless of what the circumstances are, to be a people of love, marked by love.

See, this is just what it means to be a follower of Jesus, no matter what season. The vulnerable, the ostracized, and the invisible. The people we don’t see, the people that we tend to overlook. I think in this season, the invisible is often the homeless and what they are going through.

Invisible might be a neighbor that you just really had no idea what they were going through because we often don’t ask maybe that deeper question and know what is really going on in their life and their struggles. It says, “Roll up your sleeves and love.”

And I think really it’s just what Andy Stanley said so many years ago, “Do for one what you wish you could do for everyone.” See, we get overwhelmed by the needs, we get overwhelmed by the pain around us, and so unfortunately what happens is we end up not doing anything at all.

And so, you can’t do everything for everyone. But you can and I can do something for someone. And if we would lean into that and go, “I’m going to do something, one specific thing, and I’m going to go and get my hands dirty, I’m going to roll up my sleeves and begin to love people,” maybe it’s a phone call. Maybe it’s checking in. Maybe it’s beginning to pray specifically for your neighbors or people that you’re going, God, open my eyes to the needs around me. You’re not going to go far until you run and trip over and God is going to put people along your path to love.

Three spiritual practices of the resilient, of the spiritually mature. There’s this restraining of our words, there’s this rolling up our sleeves and loving, and finally, there’s an engagement of a spiritual detox. Spiritually mature people, resilient people engage in a spiritual detox.

Now, I was training for a triathlon. I was going to do two different triathlons. One that was a shorter sprint and one that was a fuller one. And so, I was getting into rhythm with that, working on my diet, working on my exercise, all these sort of things. And then shelter-in-place hit.

And I’ve got to let you know that everything fell apart. My diet fell apart, my workout regimen fell apart, and it almost felt like, well, why even try? We’re probably not going to be able to do the triathlon and now I know we aren’t going to be able to do the triathlon. And literally, for a number of weeks and maybe you found this to be true as well, is I began to engage in coping or numbing activities that were not actually nourishing my soul, nourishing my mind, or nourishing my body. It had to do with just numbing out to TV.

And it was just one of those things of, like, you’re now home and the fridge is there all the time. And I just found myself just going in and just eating when I was bored and all these sort of things.

And it was only a couple weeks ago, I’m like, I’ve got to adjust, because this is not healthy. And we have to do that spiritually as well. We’ve got to engage in a spiritual detox. Notice what he says about this true religion that God our Father accepts.

He looks after the orphans and widows. And then notice what it says. “…and keeps one’s self from being polluted by the world.” Like there is this active keeping or abstaining to keep yourself from being polluted or tainted by the world.

Now, when James is talking about the world, he’s not talking about the world the way we kind of think about the world. Like, we think about the people in the world. He’s actually addressing what – different biblical authors talk about this in the New Testament and they use the word cosmos, as the world system.

It’s the value and the beliefs underneath this world that are opposed to God and His ways. One author said it this way, “It’s the total system of evil that pervades every sphere of human existence.”

And he’s saying there is this proactive keeping yourself from being polluted by that world system.

And I thought, well, in Jesus’ day, actually, just prior to Jesus, there was this big undertaking to take the Hebrew Scriptures and translate it into Greek, because so many people spoke Greek in that day. It’s called the Septuagint. And so, I was curious, was this the actual Greek word that the writers then used to translate the Hebrew word here guard? And it is, in fact.

And so, it says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” He says, “Keep one’s self,” James is making this clear connection between Proverbs 4:23 and right here. Guard your heart, keep one’s self from being polluted – there are things that want to contaminate and that will actually kill your joy, that will kill your peace, that will kill your life. Keep yourself from being polluted by those things.

Well, the question is, well, how do we engage in a spiritual detox? Well, first, we’ve got to identify the toxins in your world. What are the things that are contaminating? What are the things that are polluting?

John would say it this way, if you want to flip over just a few pages to 1 John. 1 John 2, verse 15. He says, “Do not love the world,” that’s that world system, “or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.”
It’s like you can either love what is going on in the world and the things of this world or love God. There is not this in between land. And so many of us try to live in the in between. He says you can’t.

And then he goes, “For everything in the world,” and he gives three areas, “the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires will pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.”

And he begins to unpack this. Lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes, and the boastful pride of life. That there are these things that are like these sirens calling saying, “These will provide happiness. These will provide meaning. These will provide significance and security.” And it is calling you and drawing you away from your purpose and your relationship with your heavenly Father.

The lust of the flesh is this calling, this siren of possessions. It’s materialism and consumerism and we get so consumed with keeping up with the Joneses, with driving just the right things, or wearing just the right things, and looking and being in shape and making sure we post at the Instagram or it’s so envious of how everyone else is living and looking at their travel things and going, “Well, I don’t get that.”

Or the lust of the eyes and this whole idea of pleasure or autonomy or your freedom to do and be whatever you want to be.

The boastful pride of life is we pursue power, we pursue platforms and prestige. Now we talk about it, being an influencer. And you have to identify the toxins, just like you would if you’re going to do a detox with food – what are the toxins that I’m going to take out and then what am I going to put in?

And so, identify the toxins in your world, then begin a daily habit of clean thinking. Begin a daily habit of clean thinking. The apostle Paul in Romans chapter 12 would say it this way, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world.” Same word here. The world system. The values.

That word conform literally means to be molded or shaped. Don’t allow the world systems and values and ideology to mold you and compress you and to form you. Instead, he says, “But be transformed,” that’s the Greek word metanoia, where it literally is that metamorphosis reality.

“Allow yourself to be transformed” – how? “by the renewing of your mind.” See, what you put into your mind is of principle importance. Every day you have a decision: what will I put into my mind? And whatever you put into your mind, you become eventually.

And we have to be so careful. As parents, we have to be so careful of guarding what we allow our kids, put into their mind. And as parents, we have to be so careful what we put into our mind.

As young adults and not so young adults, you never grow out of this. It says, would you begin a daily habit of clean thinking?

And frankly, I get really nervous when I hear what followers of Jesus who say, “I’m a follower of Jesus, but I’m watching this show.” Like, you know what? “The violence and the sex and the” – ooh, there’s another one that always – oh, “the language doesn’t bother me.” Well maybe it doesn’t bother you, but could it be because you have allowed those things to form you? We get used to pollution that we don’t even notice it and we just accept it as the normal reality. And he says no, no, no. Do not conform.

And begin to get God’s Word in your mind so that you can understand what is true and what is good. He says, “Then you’ll be able to test,” this is Romans 12, the end part of 2, “then you’ll be able to test and approve.” Like your life will experience and be able to demonstrate God’s will.

What is God’s will? “His good, pleasing, perfect will.” See, one of the great lies when we are talking about this is that God is somehow trying to keep you from fun and holding out. And there’s all these other areas and if you dive into those areas, that’s real life. No, no, no, no. God’s trying to keep you from harm and He wants the very best for you.

When I was a boy, we went to visit my aunt and uncle in Kentucky. And they had an Atari. And we didn’t grow up with video games and so this Atari was like the coolest thing ever. And I remember seeing the Atari and it was like, Oh my goodness. And I started playing and my brothers and I were playing on this.

And then the whole family was going to go out and I didn’t really know where they were going or what they were doing and they just said, “Hey, we’re going to go out. Why don’t you come with us?” I’m like, I’m loving playing the Atari. I just, “No, I’m just going to stay here.”

And I remember, the time they were gone, I’m just playing all the different games that they had. And then they walk in the door and someone is carrying this really big stuffed animal. And I looked up and I was like, “Where did you guys go?” “Oh, we went to a carnival.” “A carnival?” “Yeah!”
And then they began to tell me about all the things and the funnel cake and the rides and all the stuff that they experienced. And I was like, “Oh my goodness.” Had I known I was missing out on the carnival; I would have said no the Atari! Because the carnival was way cooler and the stories they were telling me, I’m like, Man, I don’t want to miss out on that.

And that’s how we live. We settle for things because that’s what we know. And, yet, the reality is is God says, I have something so much better for you here. C.S. Lewis picks up on this in his quote in The Weight of Glory. He writes, “We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered. Like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in the slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at sea. We are far too easily pleased.”

God loves you. He wants the very best for you. He is not holding out. And so, would you engage in a spiritual detox where you go, You know what? I’ve been watching movies I shouldn’t be watching. I have been on social media and it’s just contaminating. In fact, there are some friendships that are actually polluting right now and engaging in conversations that aren’t there.

And you begin to experience and be renewed and experience His good and pleasing and perfect will. See, this is what resilient or mature people do. This is how they respond. They bite their tongue, they love people well, and they engage in this spiritual detox.

And you’re going, Well, where do I begin? How does that help me today? And here’s what I would say. Take that and reverse the order. Take that and reverse the order. And so, today, would you begin a spiritual detox this week. Where you would begin to go, Okay, what am I going to stop allowing into my mind and into my heart? There’s a stopping. And I’m going to begin to get into God’s Word. I’m going to start playing worship music and get my heart and mind there.

And then roll up your sleeves and love someone. Spiritual detox and then roll up your sleeves and love someone. And here’s what you’ll find. Here’s what you’ll find is your tongue will be an indicator of the condition of your heart. And you’ll begin to see, Oh, you know what? I was able to hold that. You know what? I’m able to see these things and God is beginning to form and change me. And it’ll be an indicator of you seeing, Oh, God, You’re actually changing my heart because I would have responded this way. And, look, I was able to withhold that moment.

God, I just ask that in this moment as we respond to your Word, we wouldn't just be hearers of the Word, like we talked about last week, but we would be doers. God, I ask that there would be a specific next step for each person to take that you would give them the courage to do it no matter how hard it is. And that you would make us mature and complete. That you would make us resilient so that we can love people well and we can be Your hands and feet to a hurting a broken world. In Jesus' name, amen.