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The High Cost of Not Doing Good, Part 2

From the series Doing Good

Have you ever had the urge to do something nice for someone, but then decided to push that urge down and keep moving? Join Chip as he exposes what happens when we choose not to do good.

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The third area is these young women, either newly married or they are at least young in life. And there are couplets, there are three different couplets, he pairs them together. He says, “Older women, you need to teach them to love their husbands and their children.” There are a lot of demands on a woman like, “How do you do that?”

And to be self-controlled and pure. Same word about mastering their own life and their own discipline and their own appetites and that word “pure” literally just means “holy, set apart, having the right kind of thoughts, putting the right kind of things in your mind, being pure in how you think about life, and in your behavior.”

And then busy at home and be kind. Literally the “busy at home” is “a keeper of home.” And what you need to understand as you read this passage is the average woman, when this was written, she lived in a home, in a separate apartment.

When the men ate, she didn’t eat with her husband.  The idea of a family meal? That didn’t happen. She ate by herself or with the children.

Most of the men, as we learned last time, were not a one woman man, they were a three woman man. They had a slave girl that they could have sex with, they had a temple prostitute, and then they had a wife to bear children for their lineage.

And so, life for a woman was terrible. Like in some countries that we could probably name today that are just horrendous. Well, now this revolutionary comes named Jesus. And He starts talking about women being co-heirs of the grace of God, and an equal in God’s sight and loved and cared for and He gives these ridiculous commandments in this culture that men should lay down their life for their wives and care for them and love them and protect them and provide for them and connect with them and communicate with them.

Well, in Crete, you have this wild culture going on, apparently some of the younger women were getting emancipated, but in their emancipation were starting to take their emancipation where they were violating some of the cultural cues to such a point that it was undermining whole families.

And Paul is saying, “You know, be careful about your focus. And there are a lot of things you can do as a woman, but make sure your priorities are in order.” There are certain things that no one else can do but you. No one can love your husband or be a mom to your kids like you. No one can have the self-control and model purity like you, especially in that culture, or in ours.

And so he’s saying to them, “Make sure that how you live, how you relate, honors what God says.” I think the temptation for young women, especially in our day, is the same in that day. It’s really an issue of priorities.

I mean, I have had people, I’m sure it’s unintentional, but they’ve asked my wife, “So what do you do?” And she said, “Well, I’m actually a homemaker,” and she has worked at different times but she goes, “You know, during this season, when our kids were small and then on up through when we sent them out, I just felt like that was my greatest priority.”

Who feels the moral weight of nurturing? Who feels the moral weight of what happens with the kids? Who feels the moral weight? And I just, I think women have really been pulled apart.

Does it mean you can’t work? I don’t think so. But I think what it does mean is your priorities in a season of life, you can only work or get needed income after your know you’re taking care of what no one else can do.

Because on the one hand, it’s really interesting, people will come to me and say, “Well you must be really amazed. God has done a few things through you.” And I think, “Well, I have, but they are kind of one-offs,” and I look at my wife and I look at the time that she spent investing in our kids and I think of our greatest joys… and what is happening, our kids are impacting far more people than I ever will in all my life.

See, the problem with being a woman is, your investment is a long haul investment, very painful, and very difficult with not a lot of reward during the journey. But the payoff is deeper and greater.

And so you have to have a long fuse, you gotta really believe. This may feel kinda hard, but you’re really talking maybe, what, fifteen years? Ten, twelve that are super, super critical and then you launch the kind of people that change the world.

And so now he says, “Older men, this is what a Christian looks like, who lives like a Christian. Older women and younger women,” and then notice he says, here’s why, “So that God’s Word will not be discredited.”
That’s the idea. People won’t speak evil of it. In other words, God’s Word, wow! This must be true! Why? Because of how older men and older women and young women actually live.

Summary here is that our character and relationships at home, are you ready for this, should cause our children to want to be like us, and cause our neighbors and our friends to admire our marriages and our parenting, not question our faith.

He now goes to the young men in the home. And he says, “You younger men,” he says, “you need to be self-controlled,” and interestingly, the word changes. As you go through like I did in my Bible, the word “teach,” “teach,” “teach,” “teach,” “teach,” “train,” “encourage,” “exhort,” “teach,” “teach,” what you realize is, people don’t know how to do this. If people already know something, you don’t have to teach them.

Go through your Bible, if you would, or if you have a Kindle, and highlight, “teach,” “teach,” and what you’ll see is all of chapter 2, except for the second half, which we already covered, it’s all about people have to learn, your kids have to learn, your friends have to learn, the people you disciple, that we have to teach them.

And the culture in Crete, just like the culture today, is the opposite of Christians living like Christians. In fact, the tragedy is, in most churches, the culture is different than Christians living like Christians. And so our work is cut out for us.

And so now it gets a little stronger. He says, “I want you to exhort, I want you to admonish the young men.” And it’s interesting, there’s only one thing you’re supposed to tell them: Be self-controlled. You make your own conclusions on that one.

The word “self-control” has showed up in every single one of the relationships and it simply means “to master one’s self; to be disciplined,” and I would say to young men here to be disciplined or controlled over your passions for success, for wealth, for sex, for power, and for fame.

And when young men are disciplined and aligned, by the power of God, with their time, their priorities with their family, their own spiritual development, in prayer, in God’s Word, and they don’t allow their work or their hobbies to dominate their lives, they step up and they change the world.

They have the energy, they have focus, they have dreams. Those are the kind of Christians that change the world.

And then he says, “How are you going to teach them to be self-controlled?” And he says, “You set them an example. You tell them, ‘Be self-controlled,’ and then tell them, ‘Just look at me, guys.’” Boy, how would you like to be that pastor? You model self-control, you model godliness, you model loving relationships, you model faith, you model how to treat women, you model how to treat your kids.

And then demonstrate it, he says, in the integrity and seriousness of your teaching. The word “integrity” has to do with motives. Notice the false teachers, they did it for money. He says, “Titus, you teach in a way where people will know you’re not into their wallet, you’re not into fame, you’re not into impressing people, you’re just living it out.”

And then, now, also it needs to be serious. Don’t come halfhearted and give half-baked messages. You need to give messages that are well researched and you need to do it with dignity, and you need to do it with a sobriety, and you need to do it before the living God.

You meet a man like that, pretty soon, all that criticism about Christians, and the Church, and intolerant, and hypocritical, and you start exporting more and more of those kind of people on the job sites and creating software and traveling to the Pacific Rim and building houses. That’s like spiritual honey drawing the bees who long for life and they are all around us, where we work and our neighborhoods.

He shifts it now and says, “Christians need to live like Christians for the credibility of God’s Word and for the credibility of His Church. But not just, not just in our homes and our relationships but he shifts gears now and talks about work.

Now, obviously, it’s a different world so we have to make a little transition here. He’s going to talk to slaves because the great majority of the Christians were slaves.

And, by the way, what he’s going to say to slaves make your calling and your job really easy compared to what he’s going to ask them to do. Because you need to understand, the view of slavery and slavery in the world… Aristotle said, “You can’t misuse or abuse a slave because it’s a piece of property, not unlike a washbasin or a woman.”

How would you like to live in a world where you are a piece of property and therefore if you were beaten, you know what? It’s like my car. If I want to wreck it, I can wreck my car. If I want to beat it up, I can beat up my car.

Now, to be fair, many people were very kind to their slaves. But no rights, and by the way, if it’s not going real well, this was not one of the options, “You know, Master, I, um, I know I’ve been here for quite a while but I’m, um, I’ve asked for a transfer. I’m going to be quitting.” You know? There is no plan B.

So listen.  This is why the Church changed the world. What he’s going to tell them is impossible. And yet they did it. But they didn’t do it in their own strength, they did it by the power of the Holy Spirit working in the power of God’s Word, in the context of authentic community where they would meet and hear the teaching of the Scripture.

They were all illiterate and so these scrolls would be read and they would memorize them out loud together and go over them, over them, over them, over them in their mind and then they would meet in homes and they would share a meal and they would talk about “That letter we got that was passed around. That one to Ephesians and that other little one to the Colossians and that one to the Thessalonians.”

And then they got up and they went into horrendous working situations and they responded, by and large, by His power, the way Jesus would have responded if He was actually living inside their body, which He was.

And so he says to them, “Slave, whether you have a Christian or non-Christian master, be subject to your masters.” That’s the overarching… the idea is you gotta submit to them, you have to obey what they say. “Try to please or satisfy them.” The idea here is just, “Do a good job.”

Then it says not to talk back to them. So there is a respect, there’s an attitude. You know when you find employees with a good attitude…

And then petty thievery was just common. So the slaves would steal. He says, “Don’t steal from them,” and then show that you can be trusted. I mean, can you imagine a master who realized, “I don’t know what this Christian stuff is and this Jesus and all this talk of resurrection and this is wild and crazy but all I know is, if I had another ten slaves like that, I’d change the world. If I had a hundred, our company would be…” That’s what God wants us to be where we’re at.

Colossians 3:23 and 24 says, “Do your work, not as unto man, not for eye service, not for their reward. Do your work as unto the Lord, as an act of worship.”

I’m going to create this for God, I’m going to build this for God, I’m going to fix this for God, I’m going to write this software for God, I’m going to lead this team meeting for God. And His inspection is what I care about.

Why? So that in every way they will make the teaching about God our Savior attractive. Attractive. It’s a really amazing New Testament word. It’s the picture like taking a very special gem and dropping it into a setting, but then around the setting you put all these other very, very precious gems and with a background in gold, so it just adorns it. So it just makes it awesome looking.

And God says, “When we do our work that way, it makes people scratch their head and go, “So everyone else left early and you didn’t? Why? You didn’t really have to turn that in on your expense report but you did. And you knew we had a problem that wasn’t even in your area but you covered for another guy? And you…  What’s this about?”

And I would recommend, this is not the exact, “It’s Jesus…” But it’s Jesus. And in the right way in the right time, you can verbalize and share as you earn that kind of respect.

So let me ask you, what has the power to convince an unbelieving world that God’s Word is true? Second, what has the power to restore credibility and influence to the Church? And third, what has the power to make people want to explore a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?

And the answer to all three is: Doing good where you live and where you work. Doing good. Not talking about it. Doing good in the power of the Holy Spirit, as a person who understands you can’t do it apart from time in God’s Word.  And it is impossible unless you can do life with people that give you the strength and the encouragement and the accountability to become who God has saved you to become.

You don’t need any more of God. He needs more of you. And when He gets more of you, and can allow His life to flow through you, you will be an older man that we’ll admire and respect. You’ll be an older woman who realizes that the greatest beauty that you have to share is beauty that is on the inside and not the outside.

And you’ll be a young woman who has clean and clear and wise priorities. And you’re going to invest in the thing that matters most and use your gifts to help other people.

And you’ll be a young man who says, “You know something? I got a lot of passions and there’s a lot of ditches and a lot of potholes out there, but I’m going to set my face like a flint and I’m going to be a man of God and a great father and a godly husband, and I’m going to go to work and work will not own me. But I’m going to work in a way, unto You, and I’m going to ask You for the opportunity with the energy and the dreams you put in me, to change the world.

But it starts with doing good.